Notice: Merging all Sites into One

Notice: Merging All Sites Into One

Newsflash, Wake up Call to Those Seeking Tantra, A Hello to those seeking help for their Relationships and Marriages, A Jump start to Sexual Shamanism, Spiritual Teachings, Energy Alchemy and Workings, and tools for Releasing Core Emotions and Armored Feelings. Asttarte is here, and back!!!! Yes, that’s me, the person who created this site, and your committed lover of Healing, lover of love and Sexuality, lover of Tantra and Emotional Healing, personal development, Yoga and Energy Healing, lover of massage, empowering and helping women and couples, and also your lover of Natural Healing and Herbology/Homeopathy/Aromatherapy/ and Natural Medicine!

Ok, the title is Almost accurate, but I have to keep the title somewhat short! I am NOT getting rid of my site for women! That will remain in tact, however, my spiritual site gets hardly any hits, and this site gets TONS! My site for women has too much potential and so many of my peers, tantra educators and healer friends want me to keep it up to do group work with them, and there’s a need to help women that is very separate to my sites for men, so I’m keeping it. That’s not the point of this post, however!

I posted a Note on Facebook, which I made public, about my newfound love for herbology, my new awareness of my own healing journey of Lyme Disease, my love for understanding how natural healing can help the body, and a journey I am exploring to add more skills to my current Coaching practice! I am looking at taking an Herbal Practitioner Training next year, to 1). help me learn how to continue to heal my own Lyme situation and possibly coach others, and 2). To help my current and new clients with health related issues, especially men who have erectile dysfunction and prostate issues, menopause, cervical, and uterine issues for women, among anyone who wants to learn how to lose weight naturally, to detox, and cleanse the organs, and not spend a ton of money on a diet program .

What’s exciting about this new development is a new brand, and one that makes even more sense to me than my current brand of TrueTantra! What am I calling this new brand? And why am I considering changing my business name? Let’s be straight here! Most people looking for the key word “Tantra” are looking for a spiritual approach to helping them learn how to help their sex lives, improve their spirituality as well as are looking for answers to their sexual frustration. In many cases, people who call me, still want a straight up erotic massage! Sometimes they are honest about this up front, and most of the time they hint at it later, not being honest until the moment they want it and they are laying on my healing mat, and sometimes, thankfully, they tell me in the forms on my Asttarte site, or over the phone when we are talking.

The New Brand is going to be called….drum roll please: LoveSexandTea! Why LoveSexandTea? Simple!!! Obviously, a name like LoveSexandCoffee wouldn’t go well with a Tantra Practitioner, that would be the fast track to intimacy and sex! Tantra, love and Intimacy is about taking your time, building the energy, foreplay for the soul, spirit and body! (And there’s a well known woman who’s a Chef with that name that cooks for children, which has nothing to do with my practice in the least! I don’t plan on being a chef and have no intentions of teaching classes on cooking for kids, not that I know of at least. The only thing I’d be interested in doing in that department might be teaching kids yoga, reading, writing or creating music with kids, and possibly at some point being an educator in schools for young women and men on sexuality and personal growth. For now, let’s stay focused on the topic!)

To answer, why change the brand name? I love the new name, but if any of you suggest to keep it as is, please comment here and give me your thoughts!

LoveSexandTea is a great title for a Radio Show, a Youtube Channel, a book, a great title for relationships, couples, marriages, taking ones time to learn tantra, slow sex, tea and herbology for natural healing, and Tantra!

 

 

How All Sessions Go

how all sessions goHow All Sessions Go

No matter what you’re looking for, no matter what your focus is, your goals, intentions, or needs, or “program” you feel fits you best, we will always have a conversation and coaching part of a session, prior to anything else. Before meeting, we will have a pre-screening process to determine your level of spiritual experience, interest and what your next steps of spiritual growth are. Then we determine if we are going deeper into a spiritual healing session (which always precedes any tantra work), or if we are doing more of a Coaching Session, which always precedes any Sex or Intimacy Coaching as well.

Even if someone is coming for health reasons, holistic healing, general massage, or emotional healing (such as grief work, anxiety, depression, anger, a break up, a death in the family, a challenge with their relationship or their sexual concerns), we will still have a coaching aspect to any session.

If someone comes for Erectile Dysfunction, or Pre-mature Ejaculation, we will still have Coaching and/or Counseling prior to any Session, to determine if it is energetic and emotional reasons, or health related, and the best approach to take.

If someone comes for Intimacy Issues and is manifesting the wrong partner, we will go into Coaching, to determine what the pattern is, the history of all relationships, the types of relationships manifested, and the common theme of what all the issues in those relationships come up. We may do emotional healing or energy clearing to release the blocks to the previous partners, or go into a Cuddle Session and Chakra Healing work, however, Coaching and all sorts of talking is part of the session, and is addressed in the same session.

Prior to any hands on or touching aspect of any session, spiritual healing work takes place. Often it is a meditation, chakra clearing session, or a tantra meditation, however, there are other tools used prior to hands on work that may be needed, but it is not determined what is best until after meeting and the issues that are important to work on. (And, if a talking aspect to a session is needed and takes a larger amount of time, and then a spiritual healing is needed after, a longer session would be recommended, or multiple sessions to get all aspects covered).

Sometimes Reiki or Aura Clearing is needed in order to do any hands on work. Reiki energy helps moves the energetic blocks and frees up the space around a person so they radiate a higher frequency. The energy around a person is often more significant then their physical body, and any layers that are guarded or heavy will need cleansing before physical touch and closeness. If someone’s energy is too heavy, too chaotic, anxious or fear based, I will either suggest seeking solely Spiritual Healing (with myself or another practitioner first), or a professional therapist to do emotional healing work (or they can work with me on this level also if they feel comfortable). Then after these layers have been addressed, we can move into more physical healing work.

My site IntuitiveSoulHealings.com talks more about healing the aura, energy body, and spiritual healing. And my site, MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com talks more about the Coaching aspect of the sessions, however, here at TrueTantra.net we merge those worlds all together, and combine a whole body experience, of spiritual cleansing and rejuvenation, coaching/or counseling for deeper emotional healing, and tantra and intimacy for going deeper into joy, pleasure and love! Every step counts and one leads to the next layer of creating a full body experience of bliss, joy, and profound peace and satisfaction!

And even working on healing the emotional layers of a person, can certainly and DEFINITELY take one to joy! Underneath all challenging feelings is love, and no matter what lays on top, love is always waiting!

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy MovementArousal as Energy Movement

What happens after a relationship ends, or you have taken an enormous amount of time to be alone? (The relationship might as well be over if that’s the case). And definitely the case if your partner had a fear of intimacy (See recent posts from other blog MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com for more writing on fear of intimacy).

What happens to your body after you’ve gone through the grieving and letting go process, and you’re ready to start dating again, or having an interest in connecting with others after all that time?

What usually happens, is your body will start telling you that you are ready. It will have desires with certain people you are attracted to, or give you sudden urges and nudges to push you to talk to someone. But what happens when you’re by yourself, and you are starting to finally open up again after all that time alone? Your body may have waves of energy movement, or jolts of sudden arousal. It may feel orgasmic, but then when you go to pleasure yourself, you may still feel certain blocks to experience a full body experience of arousal, i.e.. orgasm.

The arousal is your bodies way of telling you that you have gotten through most of the grieving process of your ex lover (husband, wife, etc) and it has achieved a level of balance, equilibrium and harmony of energy and wants to move to a higher place of joy. You completed the cycle of sadness, solitude and aloneness after the hard core break up. You took the time you needed to rest, recover, release anxiety, stress and sadness from your previous beloved, and now your body has awaken, and it wants to wake you up to match how it feels.

It can happen anywhere; your kitchen while you are cooking a meal, your car while singing to a song you love, cleaning your home, reading, talking to a friend, or even meditating or taking a bath. When your body is ready to open to a higher level of pleasure, it doesn’t matter what you are doing or who you are with. It will move and rise within you no matter what!

If you talking to a friend in person or over the phone and you definitely don’t want that friendship to turn into something different, be careful! You may want to hang up the phone or leave the current situation to allow your body to experience how it’s feeling. Otherwise, that friendship might just turn romantic pretty quickly!

If you want the friendship to turn into something else, and your friend had been waiting for you to be ready and open, awesome! Or, you are neutral and don’t care if this person will remain your friend or turn into something else, that may be time to have a discussion. However, if you have the discussion on the spot, changes will happen almost dramatically! A more rational stand would be to walk away, take care of yourself, and then talk to your friend later after the feeling of sexual arousal and frustration has calmed down.

I’ve discovered a practice called the Deer Exercise for women and men in my recent search on this topic. This is a taoist energy practice to help move and awaken someone who has been suppressed or shut down for a long time. If you are no longer suppressed and feel the energy already excited, this practice may actually just balance you and help release some of the pent up sexual frustration, and perhaps help you relieve the sexual frustration a little easier. However, I find the Shamanic Breathwork and Tantra Meditations to be more powerful. Whatever you choose is your choice, and your body will let you know what is best!

Feel free to give the Deer Exercise a try. Who knows it might help! If anything it will help keep your energies open and your body in overall health and vitality! Enjoy!

For women:

For men and women:

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

How can you feel passionate and sexy when you’re sad? How can you open up to your sexuality when you are grieving a loved one who died, or a family member of yours is very ill or hurt? How can you feel sexual when you and a partner recently broke up?

Opening up to your sexual essence is nearly impossible when major life events show up. Even one of these events can take someone down a downward spiral for months, but all of them at once seems like a Tsunami of change and where something major is happening to teach one a lesson, or to help grow towards greater enlightenment. I am talking about my personal life, and using it to help others. One of my dearest and best friends passed away recently, and her viewing was in fact on my birthday this year.  It blew me away to realize how someone so young could move on. Her health was suffering, and even though she was much younger than me, she struggled to get to the source of her pain. She had a history of trauma and I spent many years trying to help her. My lesson in my relationship with her, is the same lesson in the bigger picture of all of these events (marriage ending, her death and a loved one getting severely hurt). The lesson is, I can’t heal everyone! As much as I want to help people, and perhaps be their hero, I can’t help all. And, I deeply tried to help her, but she rejected me year after year. The more I tried, it seemed the more she pushed me away. It’s amazing that right before her heart stopped, weeks prior she finally reached out to me, and asked for guidance on her spiritual development. I waited for over 15 years for her to be interested. But then it was too late. At 33, she moved on, with a beating heart that stopped and her breath became silent. Perhaps it was too much for her to try to heal in her body, and her personality would not allow it. Now, she can heal on the spirit realm, and perhaps in a new body and a new life, she can heal this life.

The end of a relationship also takes a toll. It’s like a death unto itself. You have to interact with that person in a whole new way.  Grieving someone that is still living is a challenge alone. You wonder why things couldn’t work out. You wonder why they refused to heal, or were unwilling to admit their own responsibility in their own choices. You wonder why they project all their anger and blame of things they did, onto you. You can question it over and over again, but mental illness sometimes cannot be figured out. And, when the other person chooses not to heal or get help, the only thing left is to grieve. Being their friend is a challenge, because you don’t know when and if they’ll try to blame you for their own feelings again. It was such a challenge in walking away this time, that I decided to write about it. And perhaps, write about the struggle. And, maybe it could help others who loved someone with a mental illness. It’s NOT your fault! It’s not my fault. My heart is as big as The Divine Mother! But knowledge and wisdom in how to deal with someone like this, helps to end the pattern of being pulled back in, when they put on a beautiful act of being nice again. I’ll consider writing more of the story of this. Perhaps it could be a short story. However, the lesson again, is “I cannot help so much that I sacrifice my life away!”

And to top it off, my father fell and hit his head! He had a concussion with delirium. He had memory loss, but only half the time. The status is, is that he’s getting better! I am deeply grateful he is getting better and I’ll find out more tomorrow how much better he is. But at the height of his fall, I was there. I visited him for multiple days, and spent 5 or 6 hours a day just sitting with him, waiting until he woke up, helping him eat, and talking and laughing. It was very healing to be with him in this way, and he would say often, “why are you crying? I’m ok!” But I didn’t feel like he was ok. I said, “But you’re different!” And he said, “But my heart is the same!” And I smiled and said, “you are right!” It’s amazing how alike we are, and how much we get along; 2 Aries and my whole life I had no idea how similar we are until now. I am grateful to still have more years and time to spend with him, and I will continue to grow in the acceptance and understanding, that I am NOT superwoman, and I cannot save and fix everyone, but a part of me, will still always try!

So, the point of this writing, Sex and Sadness….how can one be in touch with their sexuality when they are feeling sadness? Well, simply, they cannot! One has to go through the sadness, to get to the sexiness. Many people try to ignore their feelings, their sadness, their anger, or disappointment, etc and go straight to the sexual feelings. And, then they wonder why nothing sexual is happening! Well, the answer is right in front of you! You have to feel all of your feelings, the happy ones AND the sad ones in order to feel to juicy ones! Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring them, then they only get suppressed deeper. The more you can feel your painful feelings, the more bliss and joy you can feel when they move through you and release out of your body! And, the body WILL tell you when painful feelings are there! It ALWAYS will, so you might as well go through them, and not try jumping over them! There is a much greater reward in the end when you do!

“Instead of getting on medication, for stresses, just FEEL your feelings! Then all that stress and heavy feelings just simply go away! But you have to feel deeply, and at your core, or it will only come back until you finally face yourself again!”

People Don’t Want True Tantra

People Don’t Want True Tantra

 People Don't Want True Tantra

It saddens me that in our majority of our culture people don’t want true tantra; nor do they know what true tantra really is. The sex industry, and the porn industry have bought the term tantra, so most people in our society believe it to be something it is not truly meant to be. There is a fine line between tantra and the sexual and that’s where it gets confusing, but most only understand it to be a sexual practice, and not a yogic one. However, true tantra has the foundations and deep training of simple yogic philosophy, emotional healing, chakra healing, energy clearing, deep breathing, meditation, pranayama breath work, awareness and true surrender to the emotions and deep journeying of the emotions in the body. All of these things are NOT sexual at all. However, they are tantric. Many would say that going deep into the emotional process is not a tantric practice, however, if you study enough, go back far enough in the ancient teachings, get shamanic training with the ancient ancestors, and do your spiritual training LONG enough, you will discover the power in it and that in fact it is a tantric journey. Because EVERYTHING is tantric. Everything has to do with surrendering deep enough, and long enough into the self, and that is a Yoga practice.

However, many yogi’s in our culture believe that they need to abstain from the sexual, and that incorporating the sexual into their yogic practice is like breaking a rule, just like in the Christian or Catholic Religion says to abstain from sex until marriage.  In the end, this Yoga Teaching and the restriction of Christian Religion almost is the same thing. Neither are about honoring your true natural body and your true heart.  They want you to control it.  However, yoga is tantra, and tantra is yoga. It is about surrendering to the body, the feelings, the energy, the emotions and the space of what is. That makes the term tantra unlimited, and controlling its definition is impossible. Just like limiting the term tantra to just the spiritual is impossible as well. However, tantra is sacred, and many who believe to know its meaning automatically and immediately want to take it to the place of the sexual, and this is not sacred.  Assuming it will go there, or forcing it go there, and trying to control it is certainly NOT yogic and certainly NOT spiritual, nor is it sacred.  And I found that in working as a Tantric Healer for SO long that many did come with the thought in the back of their mind that they had to control the situation if it was not going the way they had planned or expected. However, when one comes to learn tantra, they are in fact coming to learn yoga, they are coming to learn of their true emotions, their true nature and their true energy patterns. True tantra is mastering the psyche, but also mastering ones energy, ones breath, ones body and using it as a tool to expand themselves to a full capacity of deep love from within. That is it! When these experiences open someone up to the point of feeling deep pleasure from within and it comes naturally, it is tantric.

However, when one comes and expects the erotic with no background of the spiritual, they are NOT asking for tantra training. They are in fact asking for erotic training. They are different. And, others could argue that erotic training could be tantric, however, without the spiritual component and without any base of spiritual background, they will not have their roots firmly planted. They will be putting their seeds in the wrong garden and the spiritual garden of love will not grow. It will be sitting on the sideline waiting for someone to water it, but it will eventually wither up and  die, because the erotic garden got more attention. It is possible to access love through the erotic, but only when those seeking the erotic come to the place to realize that their heart needs nurturing and love and they choose to pull back and go deeper within their feelings. Then their heart will shine and they will have balance. However, by this point they will have to surrender their ego’s and re-learn the true meaning of tantra, and they may have hurt a lot of people they cared about along the way, or could have cared about as they realize all the damage they have done. They will have a lot of people to reach out to and apologize, or try to clean up any mess they made by forcing their sexual needs onto others. However, when one starts their practice by going deep into the yogic journey and true spiritual development, there will be less hearts broken, less messes to clean up and they will develop their skills gradually and become the true healer/lover/friend/yogi they have always wished to be.

I would SO love to meet those who truly want to learn true tantra, and truly want to go deep into their personal healing journey. For those, I have much to teach and much to share!

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn't Heal EverythingTantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

In response to Maya’s blog article titled:

Why I Dumped my Career as a Tantric Sexual Healer in Trade for Yoga and Meditation.

Maya,

Everything you share here is exactly where I am at in my own practice of giving to others. Here in the West, it is extraordinarily difficult to help others truly understand what the term “tantra” really means. And in the end, those who don’t get it truly won’t get it when we as Dakinis and Healers try to make them get it, hoping they will surrender to our truths and wisdom when they simply are just not ready. They need to do their personal work first. And only then will they truly understand what the term tantra really is, when and after they’ve delved so deep into their psyche and their self that they will come to tantra as a celebration of all the hard work they have done on their self. SO many assume and presume tantra means sex, that it puts us who are truly attempting to offer something of value and sacred, that it takes the sacred out of it. I am going to be also taking another Yoga Teacher Training come soon, and am moving into offering my Intuitive Psychic Healing gifts at a whole other level. Intuitive Deep Relaxation Therapy; for channeling the healing needed at an energetic level with the inner self, Quantum Intuitive Healing for healing the entire self; emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual and auric fields and any energies on the layers outside the body from 5 to 15 feet around and above the head. And Emotional Energy Therapy for allowing those who are ready to go deep into their emotional process and release pain in their physical body to let go of their armor and struggle within. I am excited to move into this direction, have some fear of the transition and shift in income, but know I am honoring my heart and trust this is where spirit is guiding me! With Love beautiful sister, Asttarte

In being authentic we get to see our true colors, and during this time of transition, my heart is open and soaring and ready for the universe to guide me deeper to my own heart, and yours!

During this time of transition, I am now offering services that are divinely connected to my heart. It is my gift to give to you, and anyone you may think could benefit!

New Services of the Heart

These Services are being offered at AsttarteHeals.com. Come find me there!

Quantum Intuitive Healing

New Method of Healing: All levels of healing, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically. It’s a process where I can see the energy that’s blocked on the body, and then I hone in to that place and we travel together to unravel the weight, block or denseness in that area and then we remove it. Then after it has been removed anything your spirit and body is open to is able to receive. Often this process cleanses the energy field around the body and any emotional blocks one is experiencing. It’s very gentle, powerful, intense and magical!

Spiritual Massage

A gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again! I may combine techniques of Zen Shiatsu, Thai Yoga Massage, Acupressure and Swedish Massage.

Reiki

Reiki is a method of clearing the energetic, spiritual dense energies around the body, purifying the aura, chakras, and energy field and helping to move deeper into the physical body for cleansing and purification and eventually moving to bliss, love, and kundalini flow. Sessions can move to awakening chi in the body.

Deep Relaxation Therapy

Receive support and guidance to travel to the parts of yourself incomplete, separate and unresolved within yourself and outside of yourself in your psychic field. You may have spiritual contracts, agreements or vows made with others in this lifetime or others that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. Let’s travel together to see what is needed to heal and unravel into the spirit and bring you fully back to yourself. You will be left feeling validated, acknowledged, understood and your heart will soar open!

Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy – Guided Journey and Emotional Healing

(A form of Spiritual Psychotherapy, Hypnosis and Gestalt Therapy).

Asttarte’s own self created healing modality: Here we will journey together to help you feel guided towards the path to your deeper self, inner self, or child self and unravel the patterns that are keeping you stuck, in fear, sad, confused or in pain. In this process we find the area of pain in the body, travel to communicate to it, help it to open and speak what it has longed to say, and come out feeling free, loved, clear and a huge weight lifted off of you! Whatever is your greatest need, we will walk together in the journey to your own freedom.

Go deep in your personal healing,  your deepest and most hidden emotions and reveal the truth of who you are.

Through EET, here we begin a journey of self exploration and take you to your own limits of what feels comfortable and safe for you.

Integrated Energy Therapy

Integrated Energy Therapy Integrated Energy Therapy is a form of healing that uses acupressure and a hand gesture technique to cleanse the physical body and aura of emotional blocks from the present or past. IET cleanses the body internally and externally, using a method to pull the energies out from the body clearing the aura, or energy field with a simple movement of the hand in connection with the acupressure point the practitioner holds. It helps to relax and rejuvenate the individual and gives a feeling of complete lightness after a session. IET is a frequency of energy connected with Angel Ariel or any being the practitioner feels draw to the most, but directly links their heart chakra to the heart chakra of the divine.

Body Awareness Intuitive Healing – & Chakra Balancing

These Sessions are intuitively guided. You will be guided to scan your body and tune in to how you are feeling in each area of your body that experiences discomfort or pain. You will then get clarity on exactly where your stress is coming from and how to release the pain your body is carrying. We can then move the Session into a direction of focused intent, desire, and manifestation of what you really do want and create a structure to help make it happen! 🙂

Transformational Life Coaching

(for your Sex life, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Career or any area important to you)

“Transform any area of your life that is getting in the way of having the relationship (and life) you deserve!”

“Get to the bottom of what’s keeping you apart, and have an amazing relationship again with the one you love the most!

“When the rest of your life is affecting your relationship… and when the rest of your life is getting in the way of having the life you deserve.”

Cord Cutting

(from your partner, any relationship or experience blocking you)

Cord cutting is an excellent practice for releasing the struggles with your partner, and then after your “UN-healthy” connection is severed, we can then get to work on making the relationship healthier.

With love Always,

Asttarte Deva

Clarifying Juicy from Gentle

Clarifying Juicy from Gentle

Clarifying Juicy from Gentle

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There are some of you who have been followers of my writing and work for some time, and others who are just meeting me for the first time.

I made a decision recently to separate my work as a Spiritual Healer, Yoga Teacher, Shiatsu Massage Therapist & Emotional Release techniques to a new site that is completely separate from this one. My BeingInBliss site was intended to be a Spiritual site, however, most who found me there, still wanted advanced tantra teachings and healings. Perhaps it is not possible to separate the two worlds, however, in this new awareness, I am attempting.

Everything that was on the BeinginBliss site still exists, however, I imported BeinginBliss to AsttarteDevaYoga.com  since it was very rare that true spiritual seekers found me there. Those who find me and ARE interested in Spiritual Healing, now can feel safe and trust that that is what I will offer, will know they all end up back to the same place.

Like someone said a couple weeks ago, it is not easy to tell someone who is an Interfaith Minister the same things you would say to a Goddess Tantra Healer. And, I agreed. The worlds are quite opposite, however, in Tantra, nothing gets left out and the more skills you have, the more there is to offer. And, thus, I will be adding some of these gifts to the Tantra site, but keeping it focused to one page, with parts on other pages, rather than 10 pages of deep details as I had before.

Namaste,

Asttarte Deva