LoveSexandTea Almost Done!

sexloveandtea almost doneSexLoveandTea Almost Done!

Hi guys! So, its been quite a while since I’ve written. I hope those of you who know me, aren’t disappointed I haven’t been here for a while. I’ve actually been working on building the new site, LoveSexandTea.com. I do like the idea of keeping a brand and building it over time, however, it was either bring everything into this site, or create a new name and merge everything over there!

So, I’m taking votes: would you like to see this site still live? Or fine with letting it go to the new brand?

What I left to do with the new site is edit the posts for readability, the photos having been properly uploaded, or adding new photos to the current posts, and add a couple new videos for the new theme, new focus of this work. I’ve removed all the content on MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com. I’ve removed all the content from IntuitiveSoulHealings.com, and transferred all the content from those sites and this site all over to LoveSexandTea.com. No, it is not live yet. I want to fix the posts and add some videos, and for the most part, it will be done then! I could easily make it live now, as it looks great, and 9 years worth of posts will take quite some time to edit.

Feel free to reach out to me! I’m here and available!

By the way, I’ve gotten some requests for Erotic Massage. People, I don’t do erotic massage, so please look elsewhere. I do Tantra Massage. They are quite different. If you don’t know the difference, please do your research and study spirituality. The connection between spirit and the body is at the crux of tantra, and it is completely separate from eroticism.

I’m taking a Flower Essence Certification, A homeopathy Course, a couple computer and video courses, and looking into a couple more things to make this work even more great! I am a Coach and a Healer! If you truly want things to improve in your relationship, your sex life, and your spiritual life, I am your girl!

Anything else, you would like me to share, please let me know!

Are you voting? Have you done all your research there? There’s what the media says, and what you find when you really dig! I’ve been a Democrat for the past 20 years, but please consider what each candidate believes in and stands for! Please do your homework! It’s almost over!

sexloveandtea almost done

Slow Sex is Best

Slow Sex is Best

Sex, sex, sex! Everyone loves to talk about sex! But sex to one person may mean something completely different to someone else. To one person it may mean going out to dinner, having a few glasses of wine, and coming home to jump in the bed with their hunny. To another, it may mean to stay in, put everything on hold, and do it right there on the spot, spontaneously wherever they feel like it. And to another, it may mean slow foreplay, lots of intimate massage, then taking as long as possible before removing their external articles, and moving as slowly as possible after.

Most people, and in particular, most guys, think the faster the better, but that can’t be further from the truth. Guys, and women too, feel a peak of desire, and want to rush to feel some form of satisfaction. They crave the feeling of pleasure, get impatient and even become aggressive with their own body. They almost in a sense, are taking out that sense of impatience and anger on them-self, for having waited to be intimate, and don’t realize that the slower they go, they more healing, nurturing and joy they experience within. And, too, the slowness creates an energy flow, the chi, and taoist energy movement, that allows even an emotional connection to their body, feelings and experience to take place. Sometimes, the slower, the more sensual and the more emotional. Often, there is no healing without slowness, no emotional connection, no vulnerability, no sadness, and also no electric orgasm either.

There are many vibrators out on the market, and many of them, have a speed that is much too fast to allow the person to have a true tantric emotional connection or healing experience. These ‘toys’ are targeted more for people who are unable to orgasm without them, and all too often, they over-stimulate a woman, creating a somewhat dependence on the toys, and it sets the woman up for being unable to have any pleasure or release with her own partner (or herself for that matter). She then needs the toy after being with her partner, and then her husband, or boyfriend, etc. feels left out, unloved, not included in her pleasure, and it sets him up to feel failure as a lover; which is probably completely off base. She just trained herself to received pleasure from some foreign object, and can’t experience pleasure without it. Guys, it’s not your fault!

However, there is hope! Women can retrain themselves to slow down, and men can feel the satisfaction of connecting with his sweetheart and beloved deeply once again! First, I’d like to say, is that it IS possible. You first have to put the toy away. Hide it in a trunk, or the attic for a while. Try something different. Try slowing down, breathing, working with your own energy, your own breath, a gentle touch, and let your emotions come to the surface. It will create a spiral and circulating effect of self love, love for your partner, and a connection much deeper than two people experiencing a superficial orgasm at two separate times and in two different ways can ever do.

If two people in a relationship, are both desiring to be sexual, get close, but one is angry, another is frustrated, depressed, or experiencing anything other than love, fast sex often seems like the quick solution to connect and attempt to make all those feelings go away. But, those feelings don’t go away, without acknowledging them, truly feeling them, being with them, and loving them into disappearance.

Slow sex, and slow intimacy is the only way to truly acknowledge your partner, love him or her, and create a connection that is worth experiencing. Why rush when you can have so much more? 

 

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy MovementArousal as Energy Movement

What happens after a relationship ends, or you have taken an enormous amount of time to be alone? (The relationship might as well be over if that’s the case). And definitely the case if your partner had a fear of intimacy (See recent posts from other blog MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com for more writing on fear of intimacy).

What happens to your body after you’ve gone through the grieving and letting go process, and you’re ready to start dating again, or having an interest in connecting with others after all that time?

What usually happens, is your body will start telling you that you are ready. It will have desires with certain people you are attracted to, or give you sudden urges and nudges to push you to talk to someone. But what happens when you’re by yourself, and you are starting to finally open up again after all that time alone? Your body may have waves of energy movement, or jolts of sudden arousal. It may feel orgasmic, but then when you go to pleasure yourself, you may still feel certain blocks to experience a full body experience of arousal, i.e.. orgasm.

The arousal is your bodies way of telling you that you have gotten through most of the grieving process of your ex lover (husband, wife, etc) and it has achieved a level of balance, equilibrium and harmony of energy and wants to move to a higher place of joy. You completed the cycle of sadness, solitude and aloneness after the hard core break up. You took the time you needed to rest, recover, release anxiety, stress and sadness from your previous beloved, and now your body has awaken, and it wants to wake you up to match how it feels.

It can happen anywhere; your kitchen while you are cooking a meal, your car while singing to a song you love, cleaning your home, reading, talking to a friend, or even meditating or taking a bath. When your body is ready to open to a higher level of pleasure, it doesn’t matter what you are doing or who you are with. It will move and rise within you no matter what!

If you talking to a friend in person or over the phone and you definitely don’t want that friendship to turn into something different, be careful! You may want to hang up the phone or leave the current situation to allow your body to experience how it’s feeling. Otherwise, that friendship might just turn romantic pretty quickly!

If you want the friendship to turn into something else, and your friend had been waiting for you to be ready and open, awesome! Or, you are neutral and don’t care if this person will remain your friend or turn into something else, that may be time to have a discussion. However, if you have the discussion on the spot, changes will happen almost dramatically! A more rational stand would be to walk away, take care of yourself, and then talk to your friend later after the feeling of sexual arousal and frustration has calmed down.

I’ve discovered a practice called the Deer Exercise for women and men in my recent search on this topic. This is a taoist energy practice to help move and awaken someone who has been suppressed or shut down for a long time. If you are no longer suppressed and feel the energy already excited, this practice may actually just balance you and help release some of the pent up sexual frustration, and perhaps help you relieve the sexual frustration a little easier. However, I find the Shamanic Breathwork and Tantra Meditations to be more powerful. Whatever you choose is your choice, and your body will let you know what is best!

Feel free to give the Deer Exercise a try. Who knows it might help! If anything it will help keep your energies open and your body in overall health and vitality! Enjoy!

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Buddhism and Hinduism Tantra Masters

Buddhism and Hinduism Tantra Masters

I am building a new website right now about the integration of sex and spirit, in regards to Tantra, Ascension and raising people’s frequencies; teaching those who are beginners the steps to raise their energy value and be a pure conduit for light! 🙂

Praying everyday! Mantras…….Tibetan Buddhist and Sanskrit (Hindu) mantras! and one POWERFUL Tibetan Tantric Buddhist mantra. I just discovered recently, that Buddha himself was a practicing devotee of Hindu practices, highly vibrational sanskrit mantras and Sacred Tantra. So practicing Tibetan Buddhists today, are actually closely linked to Tantra, as the original teacher of Buddhism (Buddha) was a Tantric Master, and he actually practiced Hinduism to become this! 🙂 So whether one is a practicing Hindu or Buddhist does not matter. They both are working in the same energies! 🙂 VERY cool!

AND, also Buddha, as a Tantra Master (today known through Buddhism) AND Babaji, a Tantra Master, (today known through Hinduism) , are BOTH of the same teachings, perhaps the same person from a different lifetime.

more to come~~~

Om Ah Hung Benza Guru Pema Siddhi Hung