Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

How can you feel passionate and sexy when you’re sad? How can you open up to your sexuality when you are grieving a loved one who died, or a family member of yours is very ill or hurt? How can you feel sexual when you and a partner recently broke up?

Opening up to your sexual essence is nearly impossible when major life events show up. Even one of these events can take someone down a downward spiral for months, but all of them at once seems like a Tsunami of change and where something major is happening to teach one a lesson, or to help grow towards greater enlightenment. I am talking about my personal life, and using it to help others. One of my dearest and best friends passed away recently, and her viewing was in fact on my birthday this year.  It blew me away to realize how someone so young could move on. Her health was suffering, and even though she was much younger than me, she struggled to get to the source of her pain. She had a history of trauma and I spent many years trying to help her. My lesson in my relationship with her, is the same lesson in the bigger picture of all of these events (marriage ending, her death and a loved one getting severely hurt). The lesson is, I can’t heal everyone! As much as I want to help people, and perhaps be their hero, I can’t help all. And, I deeply tried to help her, but she rejected me year after year. The more I tried, it seemed the more she pushed me away. It’s amazing that right before her heart stopped, weeks prior she finally reached out to me, and asked for guidance on her spiritual development. I waited for over 15 years for her to be interested. But then it was too late. At 33, she moved on, with a beating heart that stopped and her breath became silent. Perhaps it was too much for her to try to heal in her body, and her personality would not allow it. Now, she can heal on the spirit realm, and perhaps in a new body and a new life, she can heal this life.

The end of a relationship also takes a toll. It’s like a death unto itself. You have to interact with that person in a whole new way.  Grieving someone that is still living is a challenge alone. You wonder why things couldn’t work out. You wonder why they refused to heal, or were unwilling to admit their own responsibility in their own choices. You wonder why they project all their anger and blame of things they did, onto you. You can question it over and over again, but mental illness sometimes cannot be figured out. And, when the other person chooses not to heal or get help, the only thing left is to grieve. Being their friend is a challenge, because you don’t know when and if they’ll try to blame you for their own feelings again. It was such a challenge in walking away this time, that I decided to write about it. And perhaps, write about the struggle. And, maybe it could help others who loved someone with a mental illness. It’s NOT your fault! It’s not my fault. My heart is as big as The Divine Mother! But knowledge and wisdom in how to deal with someone like this, helps to end the pattern of being pulled back in, when they put on a beautiful act of being nice again. I’ll consider writing more of the story of this. Perhaps it could be a short story. However, the lesson again, is “I cannot help so much that I sacrifice my life away!”

And to top it off, my father fell and hit his head! He had a concussion with delirium. He had memory loss, but only half the time. The status is, is that he’s getting better! I am deeply grateful he is getting better and I’ll find out more tomorrow how much better he is. But at the height of his fall, I was there. I visited him for multiple days, and spent 5 or 6 hours a day just sitting with him, waiting until he woke up, helping him eat, and talking and laughing. It was very healing to be with him in this way, and he would say often, “why are you crying? I’m ok!” But I didn’t feel like he was ok. I said, “But you’re different!” And he said, “But my heart is the same!” And I smiled and said, “you are right!” It’s amazing how alike we are, and how much we get along; 2 Aries and my whole life I had no idea how similar we are until now. I am grateful to still have more years and time to spend with him, and I will continue to grow in the acceptance and understanding, that I am NOT superwoman, and I cannot save and fix everyone, but a part of me, will still always try!

So, the point of this writing, Sex and Sadness….how can one be in touch with their sexuality when they are feeling sadness? Well, simply, they cannot! One has to go through the sadness, to get to the sexiness. Many people try to ignore their feelings, their sadness, their anger, or disappointment, etc and go straight to the sexual feelings. And, then they wonder why nothing sexual is happening! Well, the answer is right in front of you! You have to feel all of your feelings, the happy ones AND the sad ones in order to feel to juicy ones! Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring them, then they only get suppressed deeper. The more you can feel your painful feelings, the more bliss and joy you can feel when they move through you and release out of your body! And, the body WILL tell you when painful feelings are there! It ALWAYS will, so you might as well go through them, and not try jumping over them! There is a much greater reward in the end when you do!

“Instead of getting on medication, for stresses, just FEEL your feelings! Then all that stress and heavy feelings just simply go away! But you have to feel deeply, and at your core, or it will only come back until you finally face yourself again!”

Sexual Repression to Expansion

Sexual Repression to Expansion

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How does one go from being sexually depleted, lacking desire, energy or passion to finally feeling their own pleasure again?

I consider the body as a being of energy, light and movement, and with awareness, and knowledge of what is going on inside the body, what is going on in the mind, how the body feels physically, and the energy surrounding the body, one can get access to how to alter it to feeling how they “choose” to feel!

That is a lot to sort and figure out, one might say! However, really, our bodies are capable of so much more than we realize, and we ourselves have the ability to adapt, alter or change how we feel at any given moment. We can shift our focus onto what we are thinking and feeling, by what where we choose to place our attention. So, if we can do this, why not alter how our entire body feels at any given moment?

Some call me an Alchemist, because I have the ability to do this, however, it is a fun process to figure out what is going on, what is blocked, and then hone in to exactly the path to shift one’s physical sensation and reality.

So on to the subject of “Sexual Repression to Expansion”:

What are you dealing with emotionally? You can take on practices to sooth your feelings, clear them or calm them down.

Where are the emotions stored in your body? You can do visualization exercises, energy healing practices, chakra clearing and guided visualization or meditation to alter or dissolve the un-happy or stuck feelings that are not filled with light, joy or love.

What does your energy feel like around your body? Does it feel heavy or dark? Does it feel mucky or clouded? Does it feel intense like anger or a wall? Does it feel confused or sad?

How does your body feel physically? Are your muscles sore or tight? (and where). Do you feel tired, lethargic, or weak and maybe prone to getting colds (weakened immune system).

Once you discover these 4 main areas, and whether some or all need to be addressed, you can go deeper into tackling the energies that are causing the repression. One area may take significantly more importance than another, and possibly need to put all your attention on it for a while before moving on to the next. After all these are done, then you can go into the specific chakras that are asking for the most attention, do some chakra clearing practices, movement of the energies, and work on releasing the weight within in. That’s when it starts to get fun!

Once all the issues have been resolved, the chakras are moving, cleared and open, then you can go into the tantra meditation that will create expansion! And from there anything is possible!

If this sounds easy, try it out for yourself! See if you can take it on and create the movement you desire! And, if you need a little help, feel free to ask for it, and send me a message!

Lovingly to your pleasure and success,

Asttarte xoxo

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn't Heal EverythingTantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

In response to Maya’s blog article titled:

Why I Dumped my Career as a Tantric Sexual Healer in Trade for Yoga and Meditation.

Maya,

Everything you share here is exactly where I am at in my own practice of giving to others. Here in the West, it is extraordinarily difficult to help others truly understand what the term “tantra” really means. And in the end, those who don’t get it truly won’t get it when we as Dakinis and Healers try to make them get it, hoping they will surrender to our truths and wisdom when they simply are just not ready. They need to do their personal work first. And only then will they truly understand what the term tantra really is, when and after they’ve delved so deep into their psyche and their self that they will come to tantra as a celebration of all the hard work they have done on their self. SO many assume and presume tantra means sex, that it puts us who are truly attempting to offer something of value and sacred, that it takes the sacred out of it. I am going to be also taking another Yoga Teacher Training come soon, and am moving into offering my Intuitive Psychic Healing gifts at a whole other level. Intuitive Deep Relaxation Therapy; for channeling the healing needed at an energetic level with the inner self, Quantum Intuitive Healing for healing the entire self; emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual and auric fields and any energies on the layers outside the body from 5 to 15 feet around and above the head. And Emotional Energy Therapy for allowing those who are ready to go deep into their emotional process and release pain in their physical body to let go of their armor and struggle within. I am excited to move into this direction, have some fear of the transition and shift in income, but know I am honoring my heart and trust this is where spirit is guiding me! With Love beautiful sister, Asttarte

In being authentic we get to see our true colors, and during this time of transition, my heart is open and soaring and ready for the universe to guide me deeper to my own heart, and yours!

During this time of transition, I am now offering services that are divinely connected to my heart. It is my gift to give to you, and anyone you may think could benefit!

New Services of the Heart

These Services are being offered at AsttarteHeals.com. Come find me there!

Quantum Intuitive Healing

New Method of Healing: All levels of healing, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically. It’s a process where I can see the energy that’s blocked on the body, and then I hone in to that place and we travel together to unravel the weight, block or denseness in that area and then we remove it. Then after it has been removed anything your spirit and body is open to is able to receive. Often this process cleanses the energy field around the body and any emotional blocks one is experiencing. It’s very gentle, powerful, intense and magical!

Spiritual Massage

A gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again! I may combine techniques of Zen Shiatsu, Thai Yoga Massage, Acupressure and Swedish Massage.

Reiki

Reiki is a method of clearing the energetic, spiritual dense energies around the body, purifying the aura, chakras, and energy field and helping to move deeper into the physical body for cleansing and purification and eventually moving to bliss, love, and kundalini flow. Sessions can move to awakening chi in the body.

Deep Relaxation Therapy

Receive support and guidance to travel to the parts of yourself incomplete, separate and unresolved within yourself and outside of yourself in your psychic field. You may have spiritual contracts, agreements or vows made with others in this lifetime or others that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. Let’s travel together to see what is needed to heal and unravel into the spirit and bring you fully back to yourself. You will be left feeling validated, acknowledged, understood and your heart will soar open!

Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy – Guided Journey and Emotional Healing

(A form of Spiritual Psychotherapy, Hypnosis and Gestalt Therapy).

Asttarte’s own self created healing modality: Here we will journey together to help you feel guided towards the path to your deeper self, inner self, or child self and unravel the patterns that are keeping you stuck, in fear, sad, confused or in pain. In this process we find the area of pain in the body, travel to communicate to it, help it to open and speak what it has longed to say, and come out feeling free, loved, clear and a huge weight lifted off of you! Whatever is your greatest need, we will walk together in the journey to your own freedom.

Go deep in your personal healing,  your deepest and most hidden emotions and reveal the truth of who you are.

Through EET, here we begin a journey of self exploration and take you to your own limits of what feels comfortable and safe for you.

Integrated Energy Therapy

Integrated Energy Therapy Integrated Energy Therapy is a form of healing that uses acupressure and a hand gesture technique to cleanse the physical body and aura of emotional blocks from the present or past. IET cleanses the body internally and externally, using a method to pull the energies out from the body clearing the aura, or energy field with a simple movement of the hand in connection with the acupressure point the practitioner holds. It helps to relax and rejuvenate the individual and gives a feeling of complete lightness after a session. IET is a frequency of energy connected with Angel Ariel or any being the practitioner feels draw to the most, but directly links their heart chakra to the heart chakra of the divine.

Body Awareness Intuitive Healing – & Chakra Balancing

These Sessions are intuitively guided. You will be guided to scan your body and tune in to how you are feeling in each area of your body that experiences discomfort or pain. You will then get clarity on exactly where your stress is coming from and how to release the pain your body is carrying. We can then move the Session into a direction of focused intent, desire, and manifestation of what you really do want and create a structure to help make it happen! 🙂

Transformational Life Coaching

(for your Sex life, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Career or any area important to you)

“Transform any area of your life that is getting in the way of having the relationship (and life) you deserve!”

“Get to the bottom of what’s keeping you apart, and have an amazing relationship again with the one you love the most!

“When the rest of your life is affecting your relationship… and when the rest of your life is getting in the way of having the life you deserve.”

Cord Cutting

(from your partner, any relationship or experience blocking you)

Cord cutting is an excellent practice for releasing the struggles with your partner, and then after your “UN-healthy” connection is severed, we can then get to work on making the relationship healthier.

With love Always,

Asttarte Deva

For YOUR Pleasure

For Your Pleasure

Asttarte & True Tantra Presents “For Your Pleasure”:

Exciting Tantra; Healing Services of the Month

Crystal Healing

Upon walking in to my Healing space, you will undress and stand before me. You will be smudged with a Native American Smudge stick, or broken pieces of sage, and cleansed of your stress, and whatever energy you may have been experiencing prior to this moment. I will chant musical tones and Sanskrit mantras over your body. My breath and voice will nourish your soul and cleanse your spirit.  After the front of your body is cleared I will ask you to turn facing your backside towards me. I will continue the ritual on the other side of your body, and upon completion have you sit on my purple pleasure couch. You will still be naked, and I will scan your body with my inner wisdom, and offer a few crystals for you to hold. I will prepare you to move into tantric bliss with a tantra meditation that starts very subtle, and moves to very intense. When you are ready, I will have you lay down, and continue the state you are in, with the crystals and your breath, and my touch.

Cuddle Sessions

My Cuddle Sessions are often the practice done prior to any Intimacy Therapy Healing or nurturing session. They can also be a catalyst for your deeper healing, healing your heart, cleansing your chakras, or arouse your sexual appetite, and begin sacred sexual energy healing.

You may choose a Cuddle Session, and only desire to work on healing your heart, and we can then do a reiki hands on or massage session when you are ready and have received enough energy from me.

You may also choose to do a Cuddle Session, and desire to move into other Tantric practices for sensuality, sexuality or healing whatever issues you are dealing with in your life (such as relationship issues, emotional issues, sex, self love, etc).

You may choose to receive a Hugging practice with me, do eye gazing, and do nothing else. This alone can heal the entire body; for the eyes remove the energy between two people, and open up an energy vacuum to cleanse the spirit. I’ve done this practice for over an hour in the past, and my entire body turned orgasmic. It can be quite powerful!

Cuddle Sessions can just be a Hugging Session that I do in my Hugging Power Classes, and move slowly, deeply into an embraced hug while in a sitting position. And I can then hold you in my arms, as you need to be nurtured, or you may feel the desire to hold a woman and we may stay connected this way for some time.

We can move into any other practice after the hugging or cuddle segment that will be supportive to you in this moment!

Reiki Training Sessions

Have you ever been reiki trained? Have you ever wondered what it was? Have you received a subtle reiki energy session from anyone in the past? This power, I believe, is the power of the energy source of the universe. All energy can be cleared, removed, and harnessed with the practice of reiki and energy healing, and life moves into a powerful spiritual awakening no matter what you choose to do in any moment. I have been a Usui Reiki Master since the year 2000, and have since added many other forms of reiki on top of this. I am happy to play in the art of energy with you, and help you heal, and teach you along the way! All energy healing can move one into full pleasure, as it removes everything else that is in the way!

More Sessions Available:

Meditation & Life Coaching

Gentle Taoist Shiatsu Massage

Tantra Yoga Training Sessions and Certification

Skype or Phone Coaching & Spiritual Training Sessions,

Conference Call Coaching Sessions – 10 week Program – for Goddess Healing (paid by paypal or check – other options available)

My sites have been changed, and more corrections will be made soon.  All blogs other than those listed on the Asttarte site will be removed, or contents taken and put into my books. My goal has been to be an author since a young child, for poetry, fiction and non-fiction. Now it is moving into self help, coaching and tantra for adults, and spiritual healing for the younger audience. I’m excited to launch this new year into the start of my dreams coming true. The first book has about 90 pages so far, so I have a ways to go. Anyone who wishes to help inspire me I am very open to your questions! Many Blessings~

 

Asttarte

347-618-1276 or 631-913-8572

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

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Now that we are moving into the depth of fall, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing more clothes, having more time outside, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. As I contemplate this season, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil, and energy drinks to green tea, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Coconut Oil and Olive Oil for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:
Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation
Hold compassion for others in your mind
Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:
Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)
Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms
Consider substituting out foods for better choices
Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices
Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:
Be more patient and understanding
Look at the situation from their point of view
Take a moment to breathe before responding
Consider new ways to interact
Offer a new solution
Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:
Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place
Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction
Deal with your own stress responsibly
Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking
Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)
Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner
Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:
Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic
Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out
Start a Journal
Go for a Daily Walk
Go to Yoga or Exercise
Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session
Meditate
Start or recommit to your own personal growth
Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).
Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences
Recommit to a Spiritual Practice
Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?
If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?
What are beliefs that are making you miserable?
Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?
Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?
What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?
What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?
The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?
If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?
What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn

Favorite Sessions Right Now!

Favorite Sessions Right Now!

Favorite Sessions Right NowAsttarte’s site is being revamped into a professional Holistic Healing Center. There are some videos that need to be done and some pages, but it is up for your viewing!

Asttarte’s Favorite Sessions Right Now are:

 Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy Sessions; a form of deep emotional healing and clearing I created on my own that is very powerful and effective.

 Transformational Life Coaching Sessions; to get complete and clear with what’s blocking you from having ANYTHING you need or desire!!!

Energy Clearing of the aura, energy field, vibrational healing for the stress, toxins and chaotic energy around the body which effects the emotional, mental and physical.

Cord Cutting for energetically clearing someone who is seriously impacting your life to be severed from your mind, and spirit at a more minimal level, or clearing the karmic relationship ties to this person from the past, so you can live free and be who you are today!

Phone Sessions of Life or Relationship Coaching, Long Distance Healing, Meditation, Spiritual Guidance and Spiritual Training.

Reiki Massage; a gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again!

“One does not need to know what type of Session they want, or even what they need to heal. All they need to know is that they want to.”  Asttarte Deva

See more on energy clearing and spiritual healing at IntuitiveSoulHealings.com

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

ganesh-mantraHere you will find the eclectic immersion of multiple modalities, and the options that make it fit right for you! Everyone wants something different, but even more every single person needs something very different and unique to their specific situation, circumstances, beliefs, conditioning, goals, energy patterns, emotions, and available energy to what they are open to and what they are ready for.

Welcome to my new blog, and welcome to my new vision of a balanced practice and creating a balanced human being; for every one!

Namaste~

Protecting Your Sexy

Protecting Your Sexy


You know the sayings, “Sexy is as sexy does~” and “You are who you hang around!

Well, what do you do when all of the people you hang around or the person you sleep with (or are in a relationship with for that matter) is not letting you be your sexy and is holding you down?

How long do you let the people in your life hold you back? Do you keep hanging out with the same friends, or support them to help them open up to their potential? Do you stay in a relationship with a partner who has no sex drive and try to burst their bubble and open them up to you, or do you walk?

These are questions many contemplate. The people in your life are people you care about. You want to be happy with them. You want to grow with them. You don’t want to hurt them by walking away, or yourself from having to grieve them and start the whole dating process all over again. But, do you ever question, is STAYING worth it? And, am I really being my full authentic self with this person? Will he/she EVER truly get me? How long am I willing to sacrifice my passion, my identity, my purpose?

As a VERY sexy and passionate person myself, I have asked these questions MANY times, and in the past unsuccessfully left a relationship only to be sucked back into it again. I realize the power that was lost in the process; the giving away of my own power, my own identity, and as I stand here and reclaim my true self again, it is so liberating and freeing to detach from someone who sucks the life out of you; literally!!!

But what do you do, if they try to convince you “OH, I know you love me!!!” or “Oh, hunny, we’re meant to be together!” or “Baby, I need you!” “I’m nothing without you.” or worse, if they demand you stay with them, “You HAVE to be with me.” or perhaps if they do it secretly and unknowingly by manipulating your thoughts or beliefs and try to control you. How long will you let this continue going on? At some point, the manipulation HAS to stop, and the truth WILL set you free! YOU know you HAVE to walk, and no ounce of convincing will change your mind. You are ready, you are clear, and you set yourself free! This is a battle, I like to call, Protecting Your Sexy, because as time goes by, your sexiness elopes you when you stay, and when you detach, your sexiness flies!!! Only then do you see the truth, the cycle and can finally take a stand for yourself, protect your self, and walk away!

Some relationships just don’t work, and some people in our lives are meant to be with us for a certain period of time, and when they keep holding you back from your true self, you know, the time has come!

I am here now, Protecting my own sexy! Do you care to join me in the quest?

I’ve learned some great new tools the past few weeks in Tantra, and I am available, here and would love to see you!

Here’s to your sexiness, your passion, and your life!!! Cheers!!!

www.SexBlissLifeCoach.blogspot.com Asttarte Deva