Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

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Blessings old loves,

How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, 5 yr, 10 yr, 15 yr, 20th yr, 25th yr, 30th and so on. I hope everyone enjoyed their time with their familiar faces and created new beautiful memories.

I am grateful for the ease and peace my family and I now share together, the comfort and desire in staying together; without the drama or arguments that showed up in the past, and the love (and laughter) we all share. And,it was even more exciting to spend time with old high school graduates, to share who I am today, my passion, my love, my openness and acceptance, vibrant and new assertive way of being. Perhaps many never saw me that way before, and many recognized my beauty as something greater than when I was a child. I am feeling truly honored and grateful for this experience, and hope to keep growing more amazing, more vibrant and more powerful as the years go by!

I am writing to share my gratitude, my love and my continued desire to be of service in a healing way, in whatever way that looks like for you! Everyone needs something different, and I am happy to be a vessel to receive what is most important for you!

Many Blessings, Happy Holidays and Lots of Love,

Asttarte

To Be Loved By A Man

To Be Loved By A Man

To Be Loved by a ManI know what it feels like to be loved by a man; a man whose heart is open wide to the spirit you are; a man who loves you, or in the moment feels as though he is deeply in love with you.

To be held in his arms; to feel his breath upon your chest, as he holds you in embrace, and caresses your heart into deep utter relaxation.

To be teased into bliss by the simplicity of his eyes melting into yours.

You never forget what it feels like to be held by a man; a man, not a boy, or a child, and not your father or your son. A man, who is so deeply in love with YOU!

His rich smell as his pheromones reach out to yours and tantalize your adrenaline into heaven.

A spark of simplicity, a whimper in your heart of relief, of satisfaction, of knowing you are woman, as you are received in his love, and accepted for being the Goddess you are!

What a gift you are receiving, in being loved by his depth, in knowing you ARE Goddess, and are powerful in your femininity; a divine being worthy of being loved.

What a gift he is receiving, in giving him the experience of loving you, in knowing he is capable of loving and valuable in being received.

 

 

To be loved by a man offers so many gifts; for the receiver and the giver. To be a woman, being loved by a man helps you to know you ARE alive, and you are worthy, are capable and acceptable in being a Woman; a wise woman, an innocent woman, a powerful woman, a vulnerable woman; that you are allowed to be YOU, and you are allowed to be Goddess. You have permission and you need not shut down your prowess, your sensuality or your love!

 

 

 

Some thoughts to consider:

 

 

1). What does it mean to be loved by a man to you?

 

 

2). As a man, what does it offer you to love a woman? And, what does it mean to you to love a woman, who truly receives your love?

 

 

3). As a woman, what gifts do you receive when you open your heart to receiving the love from your beloved man that is right there in front of you?

 

4). As a woman, how often do you allow yourself to be loved by your husband/boyfriend?

 

 

5). Are there times when you shut him out and choose not to be embraced by him?If Yes, what causes you to close down to the one you love the most? (What thoughts are going through your mind? Are you resigned, cynical, blaming, judgmental, or resentful? Do you feel unloved? Do you feel unaccepted? Do you feel threatened and not supported? Do you lack trust? Do you feel guilty or wrong? Do you feel betrayed? Are you angry? Do you want to forgive? Are you stressed and feel powerless? Are you afraid and want to feel safe?)

 

 

6). Are you a woman, married or partnered to a man, going through your own emotional crisis and don’t feel understood or accepted for who you are? Do you wish to be understood? If you felt safe and accepted, how would you go about explaining to your man what you are dealing with so he could be a team player to help you get through your current struggles?

 

 

7). Do you feel as though, you are accepted, but still can’t talk to him about your inner world? Are you afraid of being judged or that he will stop loving you? What’s the worst thing that could happen if you told him what you felt?

 

 

8). Are you a woman (or a man) who doesn’t like talking about feelings and wishes the problems or issues would just go away? Would you rather wish them away then deal with them? What are you afraid of that makes you want to run when it comes to feelings?

 

 

9). If you had it your way, how would you want your current relationship to look like, feel like and smell like? (What would your surroundings and environment be, how would your partner behave towards you, how would they treat you, how would you treat them, where would you live, and what would you have in your home, how would you get along with in-laws and friends in social outings?, etc.)

 

 

10). Are you the typical leader in your relationship and the first to bend to work out an argument, or are you the one who holds grudges and waits to see if, maybe, things will work out on their own? If you did become the leader, what would you do or say to your partner to help them open their heart to you again?

 

Bonus Question:

 

11). If you are not receiving the type of love that you really want, ask yourself, what is it that you want, and what in your relationship is missing, if you had it your way, you would want to be there?

 

If you’re a man reading this post, you are welcome to copy and paste this and print it out to give to your beloved woman. (You are also welcome to turn the questions around to address yourself as a man). If you are a woman, consider reading this and answering the questions for yourself. you may discover some things about yourself, your relationship, hidden desires, and you may get to experience what it is that is really important to YOU!

 

Let Drama Fade

Let Drama Fade

let drama fade

Let Drama Fade

Often times, when there is drama going on around you, with clients, friends or others, without knowing it, it can effect our marriage or significant relationship(s) and cause us to feel distant, in need to take space to be alone and cleanse ourselves from the interactions with others.

When speaking to those who are going through something intense, if they are dear to you and you care for them, the best thing you can do to help them sometimes is to pull back and walk away giving them time to process and heal in their own time. Sometimes we have to let friends or people we love go in order to continue in our own growth and progress, and to keep our marriages and relationships happy.

Every single person we interact with every single day, whether through texting, skype, the phone, email, instant messaging, Facebook, twitter, video chat or in person all effects us on some level. And how sensitive we are to their drama, to their pull on our energy or sadness at their distance will affect our most significant partnerships. It may show up as though the partnership is having difficulty, but in fact its something else. Not everyone has words to express these experiences. Some people choose to keep their outside experiences to themselves. Some partners choose to share everything. However, what you share or what you don’t share will bleed into the very important aspects of your life.

Give your friend or client, etc a break and without feeding into their need for your continued attention, just separate. Don’t respond. Let time pass. Let them heal, and in the process, take care of your own energetic needs. Keep your energetic space clean and be a leader in ending the drama; just don’t give into it. Perhaps they will reach out to you again later and realize what they were doing, perhaps they will never learn, or perhaps they will come back later and apologize.

When you take care of your relationships that are going on around you, you are also taking care of the relationship to yourself and to your most significant loved one(s).

Pink Tantra

Thanksgiving Gratitude Discount and MORE!!!

Thanksgiving Gratitude Discount and MORE!!!

Blessings Beautiful Beings,

Today is a special day; a special time, where we celebrate our appreciation and gratitude for our loved ones, our friends and those who have been there all along!

I want to take today as an opportunity to thank all of you who have been devoted to me; my loyal aspirants, and seekers on the path, and those who ravish in the idea of tantric glory! I am grateful to those who are open; open to receiving and open to giving, and those who follow through on their word.

As we prepare time to eat our special turnkeys, (and some to-furkeys), let us marvel in the idea of joy for our fellow man; our co-creators in this life, and celebrate community and friendship.

NEWS – ALL THINGS NEW

Tantra Training Program
I am brewing some ideas of creating a Tantra Training Program for old and new clients and offering Certificates to those who join me on the journey of Spiritual Training and Enlightenment. There would be levels of your development and Phases of the Training, and you would receive a Certificate upon your completion. This idea is still in the works, and I will consult with my devotees and partners and let you know the outcome as this potential project develops!

Tantra Crystal Mala Beads
I am in the process of purchasing items for making my very own Tantra Crystal Mala Beads, and once I become comfortable with making a completed piece of jewelry, I will make the announcement, and feel closer to sharing this gift to those who would like specially made crystal jewelry for their personal healing and may turn these pieces into Tantra beads, with tantric charms and crystals for arousing the kundalini, for those who wish to enhance their spiritual development, and create peace within on a daily basis!

Free Weekends
I am NOW free every OTHER weekend for the entire weekend. This is a new schedule for me, and it is opening a door to do potential full day Sessions, or at the least Sessions in the evenings or days on those scheduled weekends, and will also have the ability to re-open a Meetup Group, OR teach Tantra Workshops and Spiritual Workshops with other Teachers on the weekends I have free!

Skype Video Phone Coaching Sessions
The time has come for all of our busy lives, to come to a new way of receiving healing, coaching and training, and video calls are the new wave of the future. The payment process for this feature is still in the works, but the ability to offer Sessions via Skype is available now!
Description will be Announced on my Website! AsttarteDeva.com

Feel free to call me about any of these Services mentioned above! 631-913-8572
And have a safe and happy Thanksgiving!
Asttarte
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To Cleanse & Purify Energy

To Cleanse & Purify Energy

This morning and most mornings I am finding, as I’m creating a unique synthesis in the shower, I say LA EE LA HA ILL ALLAH HU the whole time I am getting wet and wash my hair. Then when it’s time to use soap and wash my face, I use OM GUM GANAPATAYEI NAMAHA over my hands and arms, my face, third eye, back of the neck, ear chakras, crown chakra, throat chakra, heart chakra, third chakra and all of the stomach, my yoni, and then specifically my feet, ankles and up my legs. I feel VERY clean when I am done!
Namaste~

Ganesha: Om Gum Ganapatayei Namaha

Rough Translation: ‘Om and salutations to the remover of obstacles for which Gum is the seed.’

The story of Ganesha is found in the chapter devoted to this principle. But for your immediate need, you need only know that for seen or unseen obstacles which seem to be standing in the way of your progress or achievement, either specifically or generally, this mantra has proved invaluable. It has been used it with great success not only in India, but here in the West dozens of people have related to me their success in turning things around in their life by using this mantra.

http://www.sanskritmantra.com/simple.htm

 

“There is no Tantra without mantra”

“Ganesh (sometimes spelled Ganesha, but usually pronounced “gah-nesh”) is also known as Ganapati. Being the son of Parvati and Shiva, he is definitely a Tantric deity. One myth is that Shiva (who is the highest teacher or adiguru of Tantra) wouldn’t reveal any of the secrets of Tantra to his beloved wife, Parvati. But she discovered a time when he would be weak enough to reveal the secrets…during sex! So as they made love, she would ask him about the spiritual secrets of Tantra and he would reveal them. Ganesh, hidden in the shadows, would write it all down. This is the metaphoric source of the supposed 108 classic books known as “The Tantras”.

http://indopaganproject.tripod.com/id22.html

 

http://sathyasaibaba.wordpress.com/2009/08/19/ganesh-chaturthi-2009-vinayaka-chaturthi-puja-festival-greetings-cards/

The Man as Woman, the Woman as Man

The Man as Woman, the Woman as Man

imagesWhat do you do when the man is more like a woman and the woman is more like a man? Where does this come from? Is it a genetic mix up? Is it past lives?

When your man acts more like a woman; hyper sensitive (even more than you), and squirms at the tiniest little changes, or communication that might stir up his emotions, what do you do? Do you wonder, does he have a mental illness? Is he on hyper alert? Was he abused as a child, neglected, or is something else going on?

And, when you love him, how do you keep your center and your ground to support him through his hyper emotions?

One thing I would start with is to give him time. Give him space. Let him have his tantrum. Know it is not you. He is a very emotional guy and he needs a lot of time alone. He will work through this pout in his own time, and when he is ready he will show up again.

Are you willing to put up with his emotional tantrums, or would you rather walk away?

Sometimes you can get SO irritated from your man’s running away, or hyper alter sensitivity that you would MUCH rather have a guy who can hold you in your power; hold you in your love. And, perhaps you DO deserve that, but you can still choose to love those who also might not be as strong as you would prefer.

The benefits to a man being so sensitive:

He may actually understand when you are going through something that is NOT directed at him. He may be able to talk to you deeply about your process. He may be willing to be there for you to comfort you in times of your own sadness, or premenstrual process. He may truly get it when YOU yourself need space and be able to give that to you without taking it personally.

If you have to do all the work; all the compromising, all the accepting, forgiving, letting go, you may very well have good reason to walk away. And, what would be SO powerful and supportive for you is to have a group of friends to talk to, a support group, a Meetup Group to go to, a 12 Step Program perhaps (Al-Anon), a church Group, your family if you’re close to them, or a Counselor or Therapist to talk to. You want to talk to people who are going to be supportive to your goal, and not try to pull you away from what you want, but also people who are going to help you gain your power, hold you in your strength, offer a listening ear, and a compassionate voice.

Forgiveness and Acceptance

I heard a story today of a woman who shared her experience with her ex-husband. She had been dealing with a custody battle for years and came to feel as though none of her inputs, feelings, or concerns were given any consideration. She had an agreement set up with her ex-husband on the days he would be with her children and the days she would be with her children.

The holidays are coming and she had said, “I don’t have a good experience with the holidays and I always look forward to when they are over.” Her ex-husband knew she was to spend Thursday with her children, but he then asserted that he was going to take the children that day. Then he casually mentioned that he was also going to be taking the children to someone in his family on Saturday, when Saturday was also a day scheduled for her to be with her children.

It was a situation I could not do anything about, other than listen. And, as I heard her speak, I heard more and more of my own situation that I USED TO have, that I now NO LONGER have. I wanted to offer her my suggestions and perhaps a new viewpoint that might help her. She sort of was playing the victim role and didn’t seem to realize how she was being responsible in the situation. She was blaming, acting entitled, was judging and holding onto the pattern of this relationship and how it had been going on for years.

If I could put my two sense into this situation for this woman, I would ask her to consider how she is being is responsible; if she can see how he feels, what she is still holding onto from the past, how she is blaming, judging, nitpicking and playing the role of the victim. She is playing the advocate for helping women who have gone through divorce, but it seems her heart is very much still hurting and she covers it up with a powerful confidence. My hope for her, is that she learns to forgive him, accepts the situation, learns to listen, and can one day surrender to this mans feelings. This may be the one thing that could bring peace to her family, and perhaps friendship between the two of them, instead of animosity!

The Gentler Side of Tantra

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Radiating everywhere
I surrender
to the violet plane
I surrender to this body
I surrender to this mind
I breathe and let life in
I breathe and let fate take me
I am wholeness in peace
No one can take me back but my own
my ego, my temptations, my resistance
I am always in control
I let go and allow
as I am continuously filled with love.

Tantra is not just about a sexual experience. In fact, most people in the US, and especially the East coast have the mis-belief that tantra is completely about sex. The truth is sex is only 10% a part of tantra and the other 90% is about practices, meditation, healing, kundalini awakenings, movement of the breath and the body (and I’m not talking about sexual movement here), being authentic and in your truth (speaking your heart, communicating what you really want to say, doing what you really want to do at your core), yoga practices, and more.

I am here as a guide and I have chosen to take on the path as a Healer, and I have also chosen to go so deep in being a Healer as taking on the role of a Tantra Healer; which has its risks and its benefits. However, a lot of my experience has been with men who desire to “release”, or have a sexual encounter. My job is in telling you that this is not what tantra is about. My soul is speaking to me and is now telling me that I need to teach all of you intensely interesting men and richly sexual men that you need to get on a spiritual path that combines the essence of tantra; combining deep breathing and energy movement practices to raise the energy up the spine which has the ultimate goal of opening your entire energy being; your auric field, your essence, your radiance and presence. This is not the sexual energy you feel when you have an orgasm. This is the blissful feeling you get when you are alone; taking a bath and fully relaxed with no pressures and you feel filled with light and love. This blissful feeling is not the orgasmic feeling you get when with your partner, but rather the feeling you have when you are truly at peace on every level.

The goal of tantra is to feel so clear inside your heart and spirit that you get to a place where things bother you less and you feel better about life and about your self. Once you’ve achieved this, or in conjunction with, then the next goal is to work through any blocks in your communication or blocks in the energy between you and your beloved, OR remove the “blocks”, that is taking away that empty space that is leaving you alone with no partner at all and drawing in the powers of your being to create and manifest the perfect partner for you.


My goal is to work with you as a team player, a coach, a Healer and a friend. I hope to help sooth your stresses, mend your questioning mind, calm your nerves, resolve conflicts with your relationship, and help you manifest a partner that is perfectly aligned for exactly who you are.

I am a new mother and there may be times when I cannot get back to you right away (and my regular clients know this), but I will always get back to you.

May you always be Blessed and Loved!

Asttarte Deva