Sexual Frustration and open marriage

Sexual Frustration and open marriage

sexual frustration and open marriageSexual Frustration and Open Marriage

There’s an extroadinary amount of marriages and couples that stay together for the security, rather than the desire and love of it. ┬áCouples have children, they build a foundation of what’s comfortable. They love each other, but the passion, spontaneity, openness to each other, and playful sex almost disappears. Where does this passion and desire for intimacy go? And what do they do about it? Sexual frustration often gets transferred into taking care of the child/children, work, career, and time to just simply rest.

When marriages have lost their zest and they have a love for one another, this can often lead to dependency on the other. A fear of looking outside the marriage shows up out of fear of breaking the security they have developed, the security for the children and the harmony and emotional balance of all involved. However, when YOU have NOT had your sexual needs met, in weeks, months or years waiting around for the security of your husband or wife is truly wasted energy. I can understand you might not want to risk the family bonds, the close knit family gatherings, and the fun you all have together for the sake of the children, but there comes a point when sexual frustration has taken over, and your sexual self expression is completely missing and void that your entire life force has dwindled away.

What do you do to take care of your personal needs when they show up? Do you have an affair? Do you secretly date someone new, keeping lies between both the new person and your husband/wife? Or, do you have the straight conversation with your family and husband/wife and talk to them about what is missing for you, what you want to create, and the fears, concerns, and pain it may cause for each other?

The only way to solve issues between a partnership is to straight up talk about it. However, not everyone is comfortable talking that boldly, and not everyone is willing to take the risk. Are you willing to risk your sexual pleasure, vitality, life force for the sake of keeping something solid when you are not happy? Or, is having honest communication something that you might be willing and open to having? Despite all the criticism, complaints, concerns and fears the other person may have, can you be able to listen to them, hold the space for them, and be loving despite everything they might feel out of your honesty?

You might be surprised. You might get your needs met, and you just might be able to have it all. Isn’t it worth the risk?

For those I love, friends, clients and myself, I say YES!sexual frustration and open marriage

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

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Blessings old loves,

How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, 5 yr, 10 yr, 15 yr, 20th yr, 25th yr, 30th and so on. I hope everyone enjoyed their time with their familiar faces and created new beautiful memories.

I am grateful for the ease and peace my family and I now share together, the comfort and desire in staying together; without the drama or arguments that showed up in the past, and the love (and laughter) we all share. And,it was even more exciting to spend time with old high school graduates, to share who I am today, my passion, my love, my openness and acceptance, vibrant and new assertive way of being. Perhaps many never saw me that way before, and many recognized my beauty as something greater than when I was a child. I am feeling truly honored and grateful for this experience, and hope to keep growing more amazing, more vibrant and more powerful as the years go by!

I am writing to share my gratitude, my love and my continued desire to be of service in a healing way, in whatever way that looks like for you! Everyone needs something different, and I am happy to be a vessel to receive what is most important for you!

Many Blessings, Happy Holidays and Lots of Love,

Asttarte