Notice: Merging all Sites into One

Notice: Merging All Sites Into One

Newsflash, Wake up Call to Those Seeking Tantra, A Hello to those seeking help for their Relationships and Marriages, A Jump start to Sexual Shamanism, Spiritual Teachings, Energy Alchemy and Workings, and tools for Releasing Core Emotions and Armored Feelings. Asttarte is here, and back!!!! Yes, that’s me, the person who created this site, and your committed lover of Healing, lover of love and Sexuality, lover of Tantra and Emotional Healing, personal development, Yoga and Energy Healing, lover of massage, empowering and helping women and couples, and also your lover of Natural Healing and Herbology/Homeopathy/Aromatherapy/ and Natural Medicine!

Ok, the title is Almost accurate, but I have to keep the title somewhat short! I am NOT getting rid of my site for women! That will remain in tact, however, my spiritual site gets hardly any hits, and this site gets TONS! My site for women has too much potential and so many of my peers, tantra educators and healer friends want me to keep it up to do group work with them, and there’s a need to help women that is very separate to my sites for men, so I’m keeping it. That’s not the point of this post, however!

I posted a Note on Facebook, which I made public, about my newfound love for herbology, my new awareness of my own healing journey of Lyme Disease, my love for understanding how natural healing can help the body, and a journey I am exploring to add more skills to my current Coaching practice! I am looking at taking an Herbal Practitioner Training next year, to 1). help me learn how to continue to heal my own Lyme situation and possibly coach others, and 2). To help my current and new clients with health related issues, especially men who have erectile dysfunction and prostate issues, menopause, cervical, and uterine issues for women, among anyone who wants to learn how to lose weight naturally, to detox, and cleanse the organs, and not spend a ton of money on a diet program .

What’s exciting about this new development is a new brand, and one that makes even more sense to me than my current brand of TrueTantra! What am I calling this new brand? And why am I considering changing my business name? Let’s be straight here! Most people looking for the key word “Tantra” are looking for a spiritual approach to helping them learn how to help their sex lives, improve their spirituality as well as are looking for answers to their sexual frustration. In many cases, people who call me, still want a straight up erotic massage! Sometimes they are honest about this up front, and most of the time they hint at it later, not being honest until the moment they want it and they are laying on my healing mat, and sometimes, thankfully, they tell me in the forms on my Asttarte site, or over the phone when we are talking.

The New Brand is going to be called….drum roll please: LoveSexandTea! Why LoveSexandTea? Simple!!! Obviously, a name like LoveSexandCoffee wouldn’t go well with a Tantra Practitioner, that would be the fast track to intimacy and sex! Tantra, love and Intimacy is about taking your time, building the energy, foreplay for the soul, spirit and body! (And there’s a well known woman who’s a Chef with that name that cooks for children, which has nothing to do with my practice in the least! I don’t plan on being a chef and have no intentions of teaching classes on cooking for kids, not that I know of at least. The only thing I’d be interested in doing in that department might be teaching kids yoga, reading, writing or creating music with kids, and possibly at some point being an educator in schools for young women and men on sexuality and personal growth. For now, let’s stay focused on the topic!)

To answer, why change the brand name? I love the new name, but if any of you suggest to keep it as is, please comment here and give me your thoughts!

LoveSexandTea is a great title for a Radio Show, a Youtube Channel, a book, a great title for relationships, couples, marriages, taking ones time to learn tantra, slow sex, tea and herbology for natural healing, and Tantra!

 

 

How All Sessions Go

how all sessions goHow All Sessions Go

No matter what you’re looking for, no matter what your focus is, your goals, intentions, or needs, or “program” you feel fits you best, we will always have a conversation and coaching part of a session, prior to anything else. Before meeting, we will have a pre-screening process to determine your level of spiritual experience, interest and what your next steps of spiritual growth are. Then we determine if we are going deeper into a spiritual healing session (which always precedes any tantra work), or if we are doing more of a Coaching Session, which always precedes any Sex or Intimacy Coaching as well.

Even if someone is coming for health reasons, holistic healing, general massage, or emotional healing (such as grief work, anxiety, depression, anger, a break up, a death in the family, a challenge with their relationship or their sexual concerns), we will still have a coaching aspect to any session.

If someone comes for Erectile Dysfunction, or Pre-mature Ejaculation, we will still have Coaching and/or Counseling prior to any Session, to determine if it is energetic and emotional reasons, or health related, and the best approach to take.

If someone comes for Intimacy Issues and is manifesting the wrong partner, we will go into Coaching, to determine what the pattern is, the history of all relationships, the types of relationships manifested, and the common theme of what all the issues in those relationships come up. We may do emotional healing or energy clearing to release the blocks to the previous partners, or go into a Cuddle Session and Chakra Healing work, however, Coaching and all sorts of talking is part of the session, and is addressed in the same session.

Prior to any hands on or touching aspect of any session, spiritual healing work takes place. Often it is a meditation, chakra clearing session, or a tantra meditation, however, there are other tools used prior to hands on work that may be needed, but it is not determined what is best until after meeting and the issues that are important to work on. (And, if a talking aspect to a session is needed and takes a larger amount of time, and then a spiritual healing is needed after, a longer session would be recommended, or multiple sessions to get all aspects covered).

Sometimes Reiki or Aura Clearing is needed in order to do any hands on work. Reiki energy helps moves the energetic blocks and frees up the space around a person so they radiate a higher frequency. The energy around a person is often more significant then their physical body, and any layers that are guarded or heavy will need cleansing before physical touch and closeness. If someone’s energy is too heavy, too chaotic, anxious or fear based, I will either suggest seeking solely Spiritual Healing (with myself or another practitioner first), or a professional therapist to do emotional healing work (or they can work with me on this level also if they feel comfortable). Then after these layers have been addressed, we can move into more physical healing work.

My site IntuitiveSoulHealings.com talks more about healing the aura, energy body, and spiritual healing. And my site, MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com talks more about the Coaching aspect of the sessions, however, here at TrueTantra.net we merge those worlds all together, and combine a whole body experience, of spiritual cleansing and rejuvenation, coaching/or counseling for deeper emotional healing, and tantra and intimacy for going deeper into joy, pleasure and love! Every step counts and one leads to the next layer of creating a full body experience of bliss, joy, and profound peace and satisfaction!

And even working on healing the emotional layers of a person, can certainly and DEFINITELY take one to joy! Underneath all challenging feelings is love, and no matter what lays on top, love is always waiting!

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy MovementArousal as Energy Movement

What happens after a relationship ends, or you have taken an enormous amount of time to be alone? (The relationship might as well be over if that’s the case). And definitely the case if your partner had a fear of intimacy (See recent posts from other blog MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com for more writing on fear of intimacy).

What happens to your body after you’ve gone through the grieving and letting go process, and you’re ready to start dating again, or having an interest in connecting with others after all that time?

What usually happens, is your body will start telling you that you are ready. It will have desires with certain people you are attracted to, or give you sudden urges and nudges to push you to talk to someone. But what happens when you’re by yourself, and you are starting to finally open up again after all that time alone? Your body may have waves of energy movement, or jolts of sudden arousal. It may feel orgasmic, but then when you go to pleasure yourself, you may still feel certain blocks to experience a full body experience of arousal, i.e.. orgasm.

The arousal is your bodies way of telling you that you have gotten through most of the grieving process of your ex lover (husband, wife, etc) and it has achieved a level of balance, equilibrium and harmony of energy and wants to move to a higher place of joy. You completed the cycle of sadness, solitude and aloneness after the hard core break up. You took the time you needed to rest, recover, release anxiety, stress and sadness from your previous beloved, and now your body has awaken, and it wants to wake you up to match how it feels.

It can happen anywhere; your kitchen while you are cooking a meal, your car while singing to a song you love, cleaning your home, reading, talking to a friend, or even meditating or taking a bath. When your body is ready to open to a higher level of pleasure, it doesn’t matter what you are doing or who you are with. It will move and rise within you no matter what!

If you talking to a friend in person or over the phone and you definitely don’t want that friendship to turn into something different, be careful! You may want to hang up the phone or leave the current situation to allow your body to experience how it’s feeling. Otherwise, that friendship might just turn romantic pretty quickly!

If you want the friendship to turn into something else, and your friend had been waiting for you to be ready and open, awesome! Or, you are neutral and don’t care if this person will remain your friend or turn into something else, that may be time to have a discussion. However, if you have the discussion on the spot, changes will happen almost dramatically! A more rational stand would be to walk away, take care of yourself, and then talk to your friend later after the feeling of sexual arousal and frustration has calmed down.

I’ve discovered a practice called the Deer Exercise for women and men in my recent search on this topic. This is a taoist energy practice to help move and awaken someone who has been suppressed or shut down for a long time. If you are no longer suppressed and feel the energy already excited, this practice may actually just balance you and help release some of the pent up sexual frustration, and perhaps help you relieve the sexual frustration a little easier. However, I find the Shamanic Breathwork and Tantra Meditations to be more powerful. Whatever you choose is your choice, and your body will let you know what is best!

Feel free to give the Deer Exercise a try. Who knows it might help! If anything it will help keep your energies open and your body in overall health and vitality! Enjoy!

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Sexual Energy and Stress

Sexual Energy and Stress Sexual Energy and Stress

When your sexual energy is missing, there is often a reason. Perhaps your energy is going towards dealing     with a stressful situation. Perhaps you are taking on the energy at work.  Perhaps someone you love needs   your attention and support, or maybe you are exhausted or dealing with something in your body that is   causing your energy to give it its attention.

If you are at the affect of your surroundings, it will impact your energy in your own body, your level of   stress, your vitality and your passion.  And, also, when you are going through a health situation that is   taking up most of your bodies energy, that too will deplete your sexual energy and cause your body to put its energy where it is needed.

Keep in mind, all of these situations are temporary. You have the power to purify your energy and come back to your vitality, and you have the power to regain your health, and bring back your bodies natural resources, gifts and qualities.

Don’t push pressure on yourself to be perfect and have your ultimate natural sexuality the way it was before. Know that it will return, and you have the power to do so. And, your best quality is patience with yourself, love for your body and knowing who you are, and surrendering to the present moment so you can do your spiritual practice, your healing practice and your health routine.

What are you dealing with in your health that is affecting your sexuality?

What you are dealing with in your life that is causing you stress, anxiety or repression in your sexuality?

Let’s meet together to do a spiritual practice, chakra healing and energy purification to help the process along!

If you have questions, please ask!

Love,

Asttarte