Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy MovementArousal as Energy Movement

What happens after a relationship ends, or you have taken an enormous amount of time to be alone? (The relationship might as well be over if that’s the case). And definitely the case if your partner had a fear of intimacy (See recent posts from other blog MyLoverMyBestFriend.wordpress.com for more writing on fear of intimacy).

What happens to your body after you’ve gone through the grieving and letting go process, and you’re ready to start dating again, or having an interest in connecting with others after all that time?

What usually happens, is your body will start telling you that you are ready. It will have desires with certain people you are attracted to, or give you sudden urges and nudges to push you to talk to someone. But what happens when you’re by yourself, and you are starting to finally open up again after all that time alone? Your body may have waves of energy movement, or jolts of sudden arousal. It may feel orgasmic, but then when you go to pleasure yourself, you may still feel certain blocks to experience a full body experience of arousal, i.e.. orgasm.

The arousal is your bodies way of telling you that you have gotten through most of the grieving process of your ex lover (husband, wife, etc) and it has achieved a level of balance, equilibrium and harmony of energy and wants to move to a higher place of joy. You completed the cycle of sadness, solitude and aloneness after the hard core break up. You took the time you needed to rest, recover, release anxiety, stress and sadness from your previous beloved, and now your body has awaken, and it wants to wake you up to match how it feels.

It can happen anywhere; your kitchen while you are cooking a meal, your car while singing to a song you love, cleaning your home, reading, talking to a friend, or even meditating or taking a bath. When your body is ready to open to a higher level of pleasure, it doesn’t matter what you are doing or who you are with. It will move and rise within you no matter what!

If you talking to a friend in person or over the phone and you definitely don’t want that friendship to turn into something different, be careful! You may want to hang up the phone or leave the current situation to allow your body to experience how it’s feeling. Otherwise, that friendship might just turn romantic pretty quickly!

If you want the friendship to turn into something else, and your friend had been waiting for you to be ready and open, awesome! Or, you are neutral and don’t care if this person will remain your friend or turn into something else, that may be time to have a discussion. However, if you have the discussion on the spot, changes will happen almost dramatically! A more rational stand would be to walk away, take care of yourself, and then talk to your friend later after the feeling of sexual arousal and frustration has calmed down.

I’ve discovered a practice called the Deer Exercise for women and men in my recent search on this topic. This is a taoist energy practice to help move and awaken someone who has been suppressed or shut down for a long time. If you are no longer suppressed and feel the energy already excited, this practice may actually just balance you and help release some of the pent up sexual frustration, and perhaps help you relieve the sexual frustration a little easier. However, I find the Shamanic Breathwork and Tantra Meditations to be more powerful. Whatever you choose is your choice, and your body will let you know what is best!

Feel free to give the Deer Exercise a try. Who knows it might help! If anything it will help keep your energies open and your body in overall health and vitality! Enjoy!

For women:

For men and women:

Heart Opening

Heart Opening

Heart Opening

I am so utterly and deeply grateful for this past weeks experience, of heart opening, divine inner union, peace and love, and deep connected healing intimacy. As a practitioner, I too, need nurturing, love and connectedness from those who are not my followers or clients, but also to those on a personal intimate level. It has been near one year since my Beloved and I parted ways, and I knew this time, it would sadly be the last. I’ve taken this past year in grieving, letting go, and doing what I could to heal my heart. However, the experience this past week took me over the edge of that heart opening in a way that has been needed for perhaps years.

I went to a spiritual retreat, one that had similarities near and dear to my heart. I’ve been going to see Amma since 1999, however, this event, was unique. Not only did I get to experience the love, kindness and healing of the guru who was leading the retreat, but also got to experience a connected love with a special being who was at this retreat. Perhaps we were breaking a rule, in connecting on an intimate level, however, my heart was screaming yes, and my spirit was leading the way. My soul made the choice to follow this feeling, and in doing so, my heart got to receive a deep connection of love that had kept it guarded for many years. A being who shares love, without concern, without judgment, or body armor, and can just be in the moment, listening, with presence, being intuitively guided, and following his own heart, speaks loudly to my own being. To be touched with divine presence, listening, and an inner knowing, left me speechless, and in absolute joy. My heart broke open as tears ran down my face. He had no idea how long I had been waiting for this heart connection, one that I cannot teach. This way of being must come from within. This way of being must already be known from the lover connecting to the lover. I cannot make another person learn how to be present, to know how to love without pressure, or neediness, clinginess, demanding energy or fear. Whoever, you are, you must come from a place of deep love, and this love is already a part of you. I am grateful to have connected with a being who could offer this, and offer it without expectation.

When a woman receives love in such a way, she has an opportunity to open up her flower, to open up her beauty, her radiance, her power, her pleasure and her joy. She cannot be forced to connect with another. She cannot be expected to be wide open immediately. She must trust her inner knowing, her instincts, and her truth. In this, an expansiveness arises and healing returns!

Love,

Asttarte

He inspired me to let go of worry, and write a book about a topic most definitely needed. I am jumping on this creative passion right now!

Birth Trauma Healing

Birth Trauma Healing

Birth Trauma HealingBirth Trauma Healing (blog for women)

I had an amazing healing session yesterday, and it was so eye opening I thought I would share it with you. The process was a process of discovery. I had no idea what would show up, but the result was enlightening, empowering and transformational. I discovered later that Charles Muir uses this same exact technique to his students of Tantra who wish to become Daka’s and Dakinis. My experience was beautiful as well.

The intention was a yoni massage, for healing any trauma, anger, or pain stored in the lower chakras. I wanted to address my own issues related to being drawn to unhealthy men, and attachment to those who cannot love me in return. “I am determined!” I said. We were in discovery of The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. That in itself was interesting, fun and enlightening (to find out what animal you are based on shamanic teachings is pretty fun).

As we went deeper into our healing session, I had the urge to have something “fill me on both sides!” I wanted the feeling of pressure inside my inner walls. We then discovered the pressure my body was asking for was right on the bone, and this is exactly where trauma is stored inside the woman, from rape, abusive relationships and giving birth to a baby. Many women are unable to heal this trauma from just simple talk therapy, or even rape specialists. The emotional energy gets “stuck” in the bone, and in the fascia right on the inner lining of the bone where pressure would have been experienced from the baby’s tiny skull, or from a man penetrating a woman without the woman’s consent, agreement or desire. This was eye opening, and every woman deserves to clear these blocks, if they have them.

Birth Trauma Healing

I discovered around the area of 5 o’clock and 7 o’clock is where most women stored the most rage, trauma and pain and as the giver “watch out!” Her Kali like energy and emotions will rise to the surface and she may want to rip you a new head if you’re inside her performing this healing. I learned that one woman in the tantra training said, “Get the f..k out of me!” This woman had not healed any of her rape yet. I have actually healed a lot of my own trauma, but I had not cleared any birth trauma, and did not even know it was possible. As I got present to my experience, I noticed, “that really hurts!!!” and then I started to really cry, with a little embarrassment. When we went around the clock again and found the Kali spot on me, my friend who was giving the healing said, “Ok, this is the Kali spot you may have anger here.” And, I said, “I’m not angry. Ok, that hurts like hell. What the f**k?” And started pulling on his shirt and smacked it. He said, “Ha ha. Yeah, you’re not angry.” And, I laughed. I thought I handled it pretty darn well actually.

I’ve taken healing trainings to heal trauma for women, and trainings to help them open up to their sexual arousal again from being blocked, but this was awesome! I needed something deeper and this was perfect! How cool is it to receive training when you’re already a practitioner, and can learn one on one pretty quickly! I love it. I discovered this technique can help women who have been sexually shut down to really open back up again to who they were before. And right after the session, I wasn’t afraid to walk through my friends home naked to get my clothes that were in a bag on the opposite side of the room. How cool is that? 🙂 (my friend was outside on the phone, but still that’s progress!)

See original post at blog for women at HealingSacredWoman.com

People Don’t Want True Tantra

People Don’t Want True Tantra

 People Don't Want True Tantra

It saddens me that in our majority of our culture people don’t want true tantra; nor do they know what true tantra really is. The sex industry, and the porn industry have bought the term tantra, so most people in our society believe it to be something it is not truly meant to be. There is a fine line between tantra and the sexual and that’s where it gets confusing, but most only understand it to be a sexual practice, and not a yogic one. However, true tantra has the foundations and deep training of simple yogic philosophy, emotional healing, chakra healing, energy clearing, deep breathing, meditation, pranayama breath work, awareness and true surrender to the emotions and deep journeying of the emotions in the body. All of these things are NOT sexual at all. However, they are tantric. Many would say that going deep into the emotional process is not a tantric practice, however, if you study enough, go back far enough in the ancient teachings, get shamanic training with the ancient ancestors, and do your spiritual training LONG enough, you will discover the power in it and that in fact it is a tantric journey. Because EVERYTHING is tantric. Everything has to do with surrendering deep enough, and long enough into the self, and that is a Yoga practice.

However, many yogi’s in our culture believe that they need to abstain from the sexual, and that incorporating the sexual into their yogic practice is like breaking a rule, just like in the Christian or Catholic Religion says to abstain from sex until marriage.  In the end, this Yoga Teaching and the restriction of Christian Religion almost is the same thing. Neither are about honoring your true natural body and your true heart.  They want you to control it.  However, yoga is tantra, and tantra is yoga. It is about surrendering to the body, the feelings, the energy, the emotions and the space of what is. That makes the term tantra unlimited, and controlling its definition is impossible. Just like limiting the term tantra to just the spiritual is impossible as well. However, tantra is sacred, and many who believe to know its meaning automatically and immediately want to take it to the place of the sexual, and this is not sacred.  Assuming it will go there, or forcing it go there, and trying to control it is certainly NOT yogic and certainly NOT spiritual, nor is it sacred.  And I found that in working as a Tantric Healer for SO long that many did come with the thought in the back of their mind that they had to control the situation if it was not going the way they had planned or expected. However, when one comes to learn tantra, they are in fact coming to learn yoga, they are coming to learn of their true emotions, their true nature and their true energy patterns. True tantra is mastering the psyche, but also mastering ones energy, ones breath, ones body and using it as a tool to expand themselves to a full capacity of deep love from within. That is it! When these experiences open someone up to the point of feeling deep pleasure from within and it comes naturally, it is tantric.

However, when one comes and expects the erotic with no background of the spiritual, they are NOT asking for tantra training. They are in fact asking for erotic training. They are different. And, others could argue that erotic training could be tantric, however, without the spiritual component and without any base of spiritual background, they will not have their roots firmly planted. They will be putting their seeds in the wrong garden and the spiritual garden of love will not grow. It will be sitting on the sideline waiting for someone to water it, but it will eventually wither up and  die, because the erotic garden got more attention. It is possible to access love through the erotic, but only when those seeking the erotic come to the place to realize that their heart needs nurturing and love and they choose to pull back and go deeper within their feelings. Then their heart will shine and they will have balance. However, by this point they will have to surrender their ego’s and re-learn the true meaning of tantra, and they may have hurt a lot of people they cared about along the way, or could have cared about as they realize all the damage they have done. They will have a lot of people to reach out to and apologize, or try to clean up any mess they made by forcing their sexual needs onto others. However, when one starts their practice by going deep into the yogic journey and true spiritual development, there will be less hearts broken, less messes to clean up and they will develop their skills gradually and become the true healer/lover/friend/yogi they have always wished to be.

I would SO love to meet those who truly want to learn true tantra, and truly want to go deep into their personal healing journey. For those, I have much to teach and much to share!

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn't Heal EverythingTantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

In response to Maya’s blog article titled:

Why I Dumped my Career as a Tantric Sexual Healer in Trade for Yoga and Meditation.

Maya,

Everything you share here is exactly where I am at in my own practice of giving to others. Here in the West, it is extraordinarily difficult to help others truly understand what the term “tantra” really means. And in the end, those who don’t get it truly won’t get it when we as Dakinis and Healers try to make them get it, hoping they will surrender to our truths and wisdom when they simply are just not ready. They need to do their personal work first. And only then will they truly understand what the term tantra really is, when and after they’ve delved so deep into their psyche and their self that they will come to tantra as a celebration of all the hard work they have done on their self. SO many assume and presume tantra means sex, that it puts us who are truly attempting to offer something of value and sacred, that it takes the sacred out of it. I am going to be also taking another Yoga Teacher Training come soon, and am moving into offering my Intuitive Psychic Healing gifts at a whole other level. Intuitive Deep Relaxation Therapy; for channeling the healing needed at an energetic level with the inner self, Quantum Intuitive Healing for healing the entire self; emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual and auric fields and any energies on the layers outside the body from 5 to 15 feet around and above the head. And Emotional Energy Therapy for allowing those who are ready to go deep into their emotional process and release pain in their physical body to let go of their armor and struggle within. I am excited to move into this direction, have some fear of the transition and shift in income, but know I am honoring my heart and trust this is where spirit is guiding me! With Love beautiful sister, Asttarte

In being authentic we get to see our true colors, and during this time of transition, my heart is open and soaring and ready for the universe to guide me deeper to my own heart, and yours!

During this time of transition, I am now offering services that are divinely connected to my heart. It is my gift to give to you, and anyone you may think could benefit!

New Services of the Heart

These Services are being offered at AsttarteHeals.com. Come find me there!

Quantum Intuitive Healing

New Method of Healing: All levels of healing, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically. It’s a process where I can see the energy that’s blocked on the body, and then I hone in to that place and we travel together to unravel the weight, block or denseness in that area and then we remove it. Then after it has been removed anything your spirit and body is open to is able to receive. Often this process cleanses the energy field around the body and any emotional blocks one is experiencing. It’s very gentle, powerful, intense and magical!

Spiritual Massage

A gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again! I may combine techniques of Zen Shiatsu, Thai Yoga Massage, Acupressure and Swedish Massage.

Reiki

Reiki is a method of clearing the energetic, spiritual dense energies around the body, purifying the aura, chakras, and energy field and helping to move deeper into the physical body for cleansing and purification and eventually moving to bliss, love, and kundalini flow. Sessions can move to awakening chi in the body.

Deep Relaxation Therapy

Receive support and guidance to travel to the parts of yourself incomplete, separate and unresolved within yourself and outside of yourself in your psychic field. You may have spiritual contracts, agreements or vows made with others in this lifetime or others that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. Let’s travel together to see what is needed to heal and unravel into the spirit and bring you fully back to yourself. You will be left feeling validated, acknowledged, understood and your heart will soar open!

Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy – Guided Journey and Emotional Healing

(A form of Spiritual Psychotherapy, Hypnosis and Gestalt Therapy).

Asttarte’s own self created healing modality: Here we will journey together to help you feel guided towards the path to your deeper self, inner self, or child self and unravel the patterns that are keeping you stuck, in fear, sad, confused or in pain. In this process we find the area of pain in the body, travel to communicate to it, help it to open and speak what it has longed to say, and come out feeling free, loved, clear and a huge weight lifted off of you! Whatever is your greatest need, we will walk together in the journey to your own freedom.

Go deep in your personal healing,  your deepest and most hidden emotions and reveal the truth of who you are.

Through EET, here we begin a journey of self exploration and take you to your own limits of what feels comfortable and safe for you.

Integrated Energy Therapy

Integrated Energy Therapy Integrated Energy Therapy is a form of healing that uses acupressure and a hand gesture technique to cleanse the physical body and aura of emotional blocks from the present or past. IET cleanses the body internally and externally, using a method to pull the energies out from the body clearing the aura, or energy field with a simple movement of the hand in connection with the acupressure point the practitioner holds. It helps to relax and rejuvenate the individual and gives a feeling of complete lightness after a session. IET is a frequency of energy connected with Angel Ariel or any being the practitioner feels draw to the most, but directly links their heart chakra to the heart chakra of the divine.

Body Awareness Intuitive Healing – & Chakra Balancing

These Sessions are intuitively guided. You will be guided to scan your body and tune in to how you are feeling in each area of your body that experiences discomfort or pain. You will then get clarity on exactly where your stress is coming from and how to release the pain your body is carrying. We can then move the Session into a direction of focused intent, desire, and manifestation of what you really do want and create a structure to help make it happen! 🙂

Transformational Life Coaching

(for your Sex life, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Career or any area important to you)

“Transform any area of your life that is getting in the way of having the relationship (and life) you deserve!”

“Get to the bottom of what’s keeping you apart, and have an amazing relationship again with the one you love the most!

“When the rest of your life is affecting your relationship… and when the rest of your life is getting in the way of having the life you deserve.”

Cord Cutting

(from your partner, any relationship or experience blocking you)

Cord cutting is an excellent practice for releasing the struggles with your partner, and then after your “UN-healthy” connection is severed, we can then get to work on making the relationship healthier.

With love Always,

Asttarte Deva

Exciting – All Things New!

Exciting – All Things New!

Blessings Beloveds, or those few who find me here,

Today is a new day, and I am here to celebrate! Perhaps this post will cross the boarder to all my blogs, but who knows! It is time now to say good bye to struggle, and survival mode, and move into thriving and celebrating! I am onto bigger and greater things and as I speak, I give forth the ideal of perfection within my soul’s consciousness and midst of dramatic confusion! I have begun a couple new blogs the past month or so, and am raveling in the glory of speaking the truth of who I am; not that I didn’t speak the truth before, but every new layer adds to the dimension of pleasure and joy in this body! As we all open our hearts and our souls, so too does our body follow!

My grandmother had passed in June, and in this she gave me the greatest gift, and I still feel VERY close to her even in her angelic state. I feel as though she is now watching over me, protecting, guarding me and perhaps too guiding me! I surrendered to prayer when she left, and opened my heart back to the written word; the bible, and also to my craft, in wicca, and also to my prayer with Hindu mantras, and too with Buddhist mantras, as well as sensing the presence of angels, and laying down to rest each night feeling the presence of her and my angel guides beside me. My dear son and I now hold new crystals we have fallen in love with during our rest, for continued healing, prayer and meditation. We have discovered amazing mala’s made out of crystals that heal specific conditions and they are helping us on multiple levels!

Ganesh

I started a new blog yesterday, called: MusingsofASolitaryWitch.wordpress.com, and it perhaps will be my fun and crafty site; something I’ve kept in the dark for VERY long, but something that truly has helped me all these years, as I integrate reiki, intention, working with angels and prayer in every practice, and only have the intention for love, light and healing with every practice and for anyone who chooses to ask me to craft up an intention ritual for themselves.

My other blog with lots of info on all World Religions, as well as some of the beautiful mala’s I have acquired is here: Universal Wisdom. I placed a new post to my Tantra Blog yesterday as well, about the wonderful crystals, and especially some for the chakras and kundalini! AwakenToLiving.com.

My intention is have my rent paid by Wednesday, and I KNOW it will happen. I surrender and let go!

To Cleanse & Purify Energy

To Cleanse & Purify Energy

This morning and most mornings I am finding, as I’m creating a unique synthesis in the shower, I say LA EE LA HA ILL ALLAH HU the whole time I am getting wet and wash my hair. Then when it’s time to use soap and wash my face, I use OM GUM GANAPATAYEI NAMAHA over my hands and arms, my face, third eye, back of the neck, ear chakras, crown chakra, throat chakra, heart chakra, third chakra and all of the stomach, my yoni, and then specifically my feet, ankles and up my legs. I feel VERY clean when I am done!
Namaste~

Ganesha: Om Gum Ganapatayei Namaha

Rough Translation: ‘Om and salutations to the remover of obstacles for which Gum is the seed.’

The story of Ganesha is found in the chapter devoted to this principle. But for your immediate need, you need only know that for seen or unseen obstacles which seem to be standing in the way of your progress or achievement, either specifically or generally, this mantra has proved invaluable. It has been used it with great success not only in India, but here in the West dozens of people have related to me their success in turning things around in their life by using this mantra.

http://www.sanskritmantra.com/simple.htm

 

“There is no Tantra without mantra”

“Ganesh (sometimes spelled Ganesha, but usually pronounced “gah-nesh”) is also known as Ganapati. Being the son of Parvati and Shiva, he is definitely a Tantric deity. One myth is that Shiva (who is the highest teacher or adiguru of Tantra) wouldn’t reveal any of the secrets of Tantra to his beloved wife, Parvati. But she discovered a time when he would be weak enough to reveal the secrets…during sex! So as they made love, she would ask him about the spiritual secrets of Tantra and he would reveal them. Ganesh, hidden in the shadows, would write it all down. This is the metaphoric source of the supposed 108 classic books known as “The Tantras”.

http://indopaganproject.tripod.com/id22.html

 

http://sathyasaibaba.wordpress.com/2009/08/19/ganesh-chaturthi-2009-vinayaka-chaturthi-puja-festival-greetings-cards/

Eclectic Immersion of Bliss

Eclectic Immersion of Bliss


To live fully unto yourself is its natural state of the child you were born into. Once you learn the pleasures of life, you can never go back to the state you were before. And, as such, when children get bombarded by the control of our society, a level of brainwashing takes effect. We grow up feeling as if we are truly living our passion, or truly living what we love, but we later learn we are suppressed, frustrated and angry. There are layers and layers of patterns that get built, and as our perceptions of the world change, so do our beliefs; about who we are, why we are here, and what really matters to us. We transition and stop being the free spirits we once were. We grow to have fears, limitations, boundaries, and restrictions; just as the rules we grew up with around us and in our society.

This work is about removing those layers, unraveling so to speak and peeling back the parts of your self that have covered you up so that you can live into the true essence that you are; your divinity, your innocence, your love and your bliss!

When you can open up, and surrender your body to your spirit, your heart to your soul, and your mind to your heart, you can be anything, and truly live a bliss filled life!

And, as such, I have created a portal site; one that has all the sites within it and branched to the deeper work I offer. It is like a home contents page and offers a very brief description of the work, and then a link to each site for further information of what you are drawn to, need and feel you might want a session in. You are welcome to visit this portal at www.AsttarteDeva.com

With Love, Asttarte

www.SexBlissLifeCoach.blogspot.com Asttarte Deva